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How can you mend this broken man? How can a loser ever win? Please help me mend my broken heart and let me live again.

These lyrics from a popular song of the ’70s, “ How Can You Mend a Broken Heart? ” by the Bee Gees, can certainly make us reflect on our own broken hearts. How many of you have a broken heart now, or have had your heart broken in the past? You have this huge gaping hole in your heart that was left by someone or circumstances. How many of you feel that this hole can never be filled and that you will be left with the hollow in your heart forever?

There can be many reasons why we are left with a broken heart: the death of a loved one, divorce, loss of a job, loss of status, loss of health, betrayal by a friend, loss of a child and, yes, loss of your childhood. All of these reasons can leave you a broken man or woman.

Along with enormous blessings, I have also had great sorrow in my life. The biggest sorrow of all was the loss of my childhood and never knowing what a loving father is like. I never heard my father say “I love you” or “I am very proud of you.” I never experienced what it is like to feel secure, with a strong father in my life, protecting me and keeping me safe. This reality in my life has left a hole in my heart—an emptiness that I once felt could never be filled.

Even though we have these holes in our hearts, I am here to tell you that there is hope for you and me, and for all the brokenhearted. There is hope for those who sorrow, because there is a Healer who will mend our broken hearts. As David said in Psalms 147:3 Psalms 147:3He heals the broken in heart, and binds up their wounds.
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: “He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.” God wants to heal us of all of our wounds.

What is a wound? If you have ever had an injury or a deep cut, you know how painful it is and how it hurts to be touched. Oftentimes sorrow and loss are like deep wounds. They can be so painful that it seems no one or nothing can make the pain go away. Sometimes our heart is so broken that we can’t even express the words and nothing seems to take the pain away.

People who try to encourage us can’t seem to say the right thing. Like a deep wound, a broken heart will not heal overnight. Like some medicines that burn when you apply them to a skin wound, so can a well-meaning friend who says the wrong thing at the wrong time. Who wants to pour rubbing alcohol on an open wound? We search the stores to find an ointment that we can apply to our skin wound that will not burn and then cover it gently with a Band-Aid. It’s the same way with our broken heart. We need the right ointment to bring about healing.

So what is the right ointment for our hearts? How do we begin to heal? How can the hole in our hearts that is gaping open begin to close?

1. Recognize the pain and understand it is OK to hurt. Sometimes we seek to cover the pain by ignoring it or through other means like the use of alcohol or drugs, which will only cause us to get infected and reverse the healing process. Like a deep skin wound, we must apply the right ointment or a Band-Aid so we can begin to heal or else it can get infected and become worse. We cannot ignore our pain and think it will go away.

Understand that it is OK to hurt. We try to push the hurt away, but we can’t. The hurt isn’t outside of us—it’s inside. So, in our attempt to push the hurt away, we actually push the hurt deeper inside. We then can spend the rest of our life running from this suppressed hurt.

By going through our hurts, we are a part of the human race—millions of people who are going through similar pains. It is during this time that we need a lot of love, encouragement and hope restored. We realize how frail we are and see our great need for God.

It is a time to reflect on the true meaning of life and the greatest opportunity of all to draw close to God. It is an opportunity to learn empathy toward others who are going through the same things. You cannot do all of these things if you try to ignore the pain.

2. Seek the Healer. Seek God as your healer! Just like you tell a doctor your symptoms, tell God how much you were wounded and need His healing touch. He will hear the cries of the broken. God the Father wants to reach down, take your hand, and walk you through your pain. It may take weeks. For many of us it will take years, perhaps even a lifetime to close the wounds of our hearts completely. God will spend as much time and as many years as necessary to help you through it.

He wants to gently apply the daily salve or ointment of His Holy Spirit to your heart until your heart is healed. I know this because He has done it with me. When I am down, He lifts me up in many different ways. He is there for me to cry on His shoulder, so to speak, and then sends His encouraging Spirit to get me back up and going again.

King David said in Psalms 56:8 Psalms 56:8You tell my wanderings: put you my tears into your bottle: are they not in your book?
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, “You number my wanderings; put my tears into Your bottle; are they not in Your book?” God was so aware of David that He even collected his tears. In the same way God is involved and aware of our pain, our joys, our failures, our accomplishments.

When Hezekiah was stricken with sickness, he poured out his heart to God. God heard him and saw his tears. God was moved with compassion. “Return and tell Hezekiah the leader of My people, ‘Thus says the LORD, the God of David your father: “I have heard your prayer, I have seen your tears; surely I will heal you”’” (2 Kings 20:5 2 Kings 20:5Turn again, and tell Hezekiah the captain of my people, Thus said the LORD, the God of David your father, I have heard your prayer, I have seen your tears: behold, I will heal you: on the third day you shall go up to the house of the LORD.
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). God saw Hezekiah’s tears. Understand that God can be closer to us when the pain is so great than at any other times in our life.

The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit,” wrote David (Psalms 34:18 Psalms 34:18The LORD is near to them that are of a broken heart; and saves such as be of a contrite spirit.
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, NIV). Ask and receive God’s love and encouragement, because He is very near to you. God can work with a heart that has a hole in it, because the need is so great for it to be filled.

3. Reach out to others. As God has reached out to us, so we should be an instrument of God to reach out and help others who are in pain. Solomon recognized the fact that people need to be comforted. In Ecclesiastes 4:1 Ecclesiastes 4:1So I returned, and considered all the oppressions that are done under the sun: and behold the tears of such as were oppressed, and they had no comforter; and on the side of their oppressors there was power; but they had no comforter.
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it says, “Again I looked and saw all the oppression that was taking place under the sun: I saw the tears of the oppressed—and they have no comforter; power was on the side of their oppressors—and they have no comforter” (NIV).

Ask God to use you to encourage others through their pain. By your own pain you will be able to understand and help in a far greater way. Christ our Savior was in all points tested and understands all that you go through. He reached out to us by giving His life so that we would be healed.

Isaiah 61:1-3 Isaiah 61:1-3 1 The Spirit of the Lord GOD is on me; because the LORD has anointed me to preach good tidings to the meek; he has sent me to bind up the brokenhearted, to proclaim liberty to the captives, and the opening of the prison to them that are bound; 2 To proclaim the acceptable year of the LORD, and the day of vengeance of our God; to comfort all that mourn; 3 To appoint to them that mourn in Zion, to give to them beauty for ashes, the oil of joy for mourning, the garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness; that they might be called trees of righteousness, the planting of the LORD, that he might be glorified.
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discusses Christ’s mission: “The Spirit of the Sovereign LORD is on me, because the LORD has anointed me to preach good news to the poor. He has sent me to bind up the brokenhearted, to proclaim freedom for the captives and release from darkness for the prisoners, to proclaim the year of the LORD’s favor and the day of vengeance of our God, to comfort all who mourn, and provide for those who grieve in Zion—to bestow on them a crown of beauty instead of ashes, the oil of gladness instead of mourning, and a garment of praise instead of a spirit of despair. They will be called oaks of righteousness, a planting of the LORD for the display of his splendor” (NIV).

This will come to pass when Christ returns, but in the meantime we should make it our mission to follow this example, and be instruments of healing by taking the time to care for those who are in pain and hurting. By reaching out to others, our own pain will begin to disappear; the holes in our hearts will begin to close.

Healing takes time

It takes time to heal. In my life, after 25 years, there is still a hole in my heart, but it’s much smaller because of God. Every time I feel God’s presence, every time I see God’s intervention in my life, every time I reach out to someone else, every time God grants me blessings, the hole in my heart gets smaller and is being replaced with God’s heart.

When God returns to this earth, the hole in our hearts and in mankind’s hearts will be filled and mended. There will be no more tears, no more pain, no more sorrow and no more holes to fill in an empty heart—for all our hearts will be filled with God’s Spirit. For as Psalms 126:5 Psalms 126:5They that sow in tears shall reap in joy.
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promises, “Those who sow in tears shall reap in joy.” God will heal all broken hearts. We will no longer feel sad for what we lacked in this physical life because God will fill our hearts and make us complete.

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  • O

    I have been Separated from my wife for 7 weeks I’m very broken hearted everyone tells me GOD is going to bless me for standing up for the marriage. I need to see these blessings now.Does anyone know when they are coming?

  • gam

    Are your standing that God will heal your marraiage? what a faith..just Read 1corinthians15:58 to encourage you to keep on your STAND. NEVER GIVE UP!
    Ask God for a sign, seek Him with all your heart jeremiah 29:12-13 and he will answer you.
    just keep hoping bro! Abraham hope even when ther’s no more reason for hoping (romans4:18) so he became father, if you will give up your STAND, who will pray for your wife? Pray also for her salvation. God designed marriage, he is the creator of it. So ask the architect to renovate, reconcile, rebuilt, restore what has been destroyed. THERE IS NOTHING IMPOSSIBLE WITH GOD (Luke 1:37) i can understand that its been 7yrs..and that’s tiring in reality, but we dont conform with reality.. wordly standard.. instead, surrender to the LOrd, served him, & God will pursue your wife for you, dont count the years though it seems so long.. there is always what bible called.. GOD’s time (habakkuk 2:3) not yours.. maybe, you need to have more faith in God.. keep Trusting the Lord.. specially when you feel lonely & down.. cry out to the Lord Jesus. His plans for us is to give us hope & future (jeremiah 29:11) but seek God FIRST (matthew 6:330
    God knows your struggles bro! he collected your tears (pslam56:8)..spend alot of time with GODKNOW him more, Love him & his commandments.. dont go find other woman to replace your wife & to be happy at last..don’t get tired of doing what is good for at the proper time you will harvest what YOU SOW, God is in control! just sow faith, prayer,hope trust in Him & the harvest is in HIS hands. (galatians6:9)..its not easy to STAND..but patiently & faithfully wait for the Lord jesus to act…in HIS TIME. God bless you! i will help you pray for your wife be touched by God and come returning to you in love like never before! :)

  • KARS

    Hi O,
    I suffered throughout my life had a pre-arranged marriage, wanted out because of circumstances (I won’t talk about them)and went through the splintering of the church of God. Through it all God our Father saw me through. It was tough, heartbreaking, lonely, frusterating, you name it. It was until I just couldn’t stand it anymore and learned from the Book of Psalms how to pray for the first time in my life. I didn’t leave my family physically but their times that I was mentally exhausted. However, because I was given motherhood responsibilites at the age of 8 that is what kept me going. Always trying to keep our family alive while I struggled within. It took 18 years to heal most of me. I have found when you begin our relationship with God our Father and His Only Begotten Son first, things start to happen. You just may find you will need a box of tissues near by. As Michael Jackson once sang; “I’m looking at the man in the mirror.” We all need to to make that change for the better.

  • janettread

    I know of first hand how God can heal. My life as a child and teenager was not easy and I grew up in 10 foster homes. So I know how broken a person can be. I also know it takes time to heal. I am so sorry for your broken marriage, but I am here to tell you, God cares deeply for you and will help you through it.

    We are all wallking wounded some us more than others but God knows exactly how to reach down and take charge of our lives and especially at a time when we can’t take another step on our own. You just have to ask him.

    Like everything else in life, we want a quick fix but not everything is a quick fix especially when we have been broken and hurt. We don’t want to suffer any pain. Sometimes pain is required for us to grow in understanding of others hurting.

    You have to take one day at a time and trust your Father in heaven to walk you through the pain. I say this with experience. It just takes time. But what helps you to heal quicker is to reach out and help others who are hurting and broken. Who can better help than the person who knows first hand what it is like to hurt.

    Ask God to encourage you daily. Be patient and take one day at a time. God is a great encourager and truly has pity on all of us children as a loving father would.

    Great chapions did not become that way without pain and setbacks along the way. They became champions because they did not throw in the towel when it became tough.

    It will get better and you will heal if you allow God to take charge of your life.
    Janet Treadway

  • Melsea

    My parents just got divorced in 2011…

  • janc

    gam&jennetread

    hi

    i was very touched by your comment because im going thru marriage problems and i was very much encoureage while i reading your comments. I belive God will restore my marriage too..

    God bless u all

  • Healseeker

    I am writing to ask for prayers. I have a broken heart. It’s so bad I cannot function. I have asked god to help me through this and send the Holy Spirit to guide me but the pain and suffering seems to get worse tenfold. I can’t help but feel my faith wavering. I have never asked for anything and always given kindness to people. I need help right now more than anything. It’s to the point right now where in going to lose my job cause I simply can’t go to work, I can’t shower, even brush my hair. I have prayed and prayed but how many times do I have to ask god to help me?

  • KARS

    Healseeker,
    Is it cold? The cold feeds into the heartache and pain
    .
    To come to God our Father you must have humility and respect.
    Yelling at God our Father, making demands that He has to do what you want is not the way.

    I did not throw the towel in with my spouse and children. I had the biggest inner battle that I thought I had got rid of. But guess what; it hit me again this summer.

    When we come before God our Father with a sincere heart with totally repect, He will lead us through the pages of our Bible and start to show us where we need to improve. It is not going to be easy at all. When praying, not only do we ask for humility, we ask for courage, strenght, faith, and His righteous love. His love is forgiveness. He can see into everyone’s hearts. He will know if you are telling the truth or not.

  • DD

    Hi healseeker , am going through exactly the same right now ,i really feel your pain . .. Whatever you do please do not no matter what give up hope be patient and remember God’s timing is always right keep praying he will answer your prayer. I Will pray to God to ease your pain and give You
    peace of mind.

  • EHardNick

    Healseeker… You are experiencing depression. First I pray in the name of Jesus and cast down all vain imagination and I command your mind to rest and be covered in the blood of Jesus. You my friend have to keep moving. Yes it hurts, Yes it feels that you have been done wrong, but trust me it’s gonna be alright. You probably are asking how can I utter such words to you? I can because I am too going through the same thing. I will spare you with the details but just know my friend you are not alone. But one thing I will not do is allow the spirit of depression to be present and I not cast it down. Depression will keep you from eating, laughing, loving, must of all living. Healseeker, take back the power you have given away and raise up. God created you for light not darkness. You can do it! If you had enough in you to post on the site you have enough to lift up your head towards the hills. You are afraid of the unknown. What has been has hurt you so bad that moving forward seems impossible. I know you thought this would never happen to you, but it has. Words have power and God has given you the authority to speak to your atmosphere. I felt so hurt broken yesterday that it felt like I was dying inside. I asked God will I ever be made whole, can He make me whole? I sit here today with great joy that my pain is so raw and so real that it lead me to you and the others on the website. That says a lot! Healseeker, don’t be afraid it all works for our good! God will use your pain and your mess to be a message for others. Why not be a vessel and reign with Him! You can do it Healseeker. There is a garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness. There is beauty for ashes! LOOK UP AND LIVE, SOMEBODY IS COUNTING ON YOU TO DO SO.

  • afriend

    Healseeker,
    I signed up for an account just so I could write to you.
    I have been where you are. With all my heart, I know that pain and even had to take disability from work because I couldn’t function.
    And I asked the same questions - how long do I have to pray… why isn’t He stepping in to pull me out of this fire? When is my rescue coming.

    Keep praying. Keep calling out to Him. He hears every word. He is with you and He knows your heartache. He will bring you through this.

    For me, it’s been 8 months of a broken heart and spirit, and there is no end in sight… but He has brought me this far and each day I hold on to the hope and promise that He can and will redeem this disaster. And in the mean time I have learned what it is to suffer rejection, betrayal, injustice….just as my Saviour did. I get it now… how incredible it is that Jesus forgave and loved the people who hurt him. My heart is still broken and I am still praying for a rescue, but I have a new friendship with Jesus and God the Father than I have never had before.

    Jesus gets it. He understands your broken heart. And he understands calling out to his heavenly Father - He cried out to God that night in the garden. He is walking with you in this valley. He is with you in the fire.

    I am praying for you right now, Healseeker. Keep calling on God. Keep reaching out for prayer, and get help when you need it.
    Be strong and courageous (Josh 1:9). Keep hanging on.

    Love,
     afriend.

  • uneek

    I am in the same place as HealSeeker. My heart is shattered into a million pieces and I can barely function. I cried and did not sleep at all last night. Today I sit at my desk at work in a daze. This torture has gone on for such a long time and last he finally chose the other woman over me. I also have a tender and kind heart. I am the giver, the protector, the one who has always had to be strong. I lost those closest to terrible illnesses, friends have moved on and I feel very alone. I pray, do affirmations and surrender but the emptiness has taken over. I am in financial distress and I don’t even care. I am alone. I feel I advance into a clearer mindset only to fall back further each time. I give thanks over and over for the wonderful things in my life and try to use positive reinforcement but often I feel as though some invisible energy is pushing me down. I pray for God’s will to be done. I feel so sick right now and I dream of God taking me to be with him forever because this life is meaningless to me.

  • Sabrina Peabody

    Dear uneek and Melsea,
    I am so sorry to hear of your suffering. Please remember that you are not alone and that God is your greatest Helper and Comforter. I wanted to post some verses (all from different translations) that I found that have encouraged me thorugh my trials and helped me to keep the proper focus:

    “So be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid and do not panic before them. For the LORD your God will personally go ahead of you. He will neither fail you nor abandon you.” (Deuteronomy 31:6)

    “Do not be afraid, nor be dismayed, for the Lord God is with you wherever you go” (Joshua 1:9).

    “The righteous cry out, and the Lord hears and delivers them out of all of their troubles” (Psalm 34:17).

    “Let your requests be made know to God, with thanksgiving, and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus” (Philippians 4:6-7).

    “Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things” (Philippians 4:8).

    “Trust in the Lord with all your heart, And lean not on your own understanding; In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He shall direct your paths” (Proverbs 3:5-6).

    “Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our tribulation, that we may be able to comfort those who are in any trouble, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God. For as the sufferings of Christ abound in us, so our consolation also abounds through Christ. Now if we are afflicted, it is for your consolation and salvation, which is effective for enduring the same sufferings which we also suffer. Or if we are comforted, it is for your consolation and salvation. And our hope for you is steadfast, because we know that as you are partakers of the sufferings, so also you will partake of the consolation” (2 Corinthians 1:3-7).

    Keep praying to God and devoting special time to God. Remember you are not alone and maintain your positive thinking!

  • United Church of God

    Dear Uneek,

    Thank you for your comment. We are very sorry that this portion of your life has not turned out as you had hoped.

    In times of great emotional trial, you can turn to God and the Bible for comfort and encouragement, but it will take time to heal. As our article pointed out, “It takes time to heal. In my life I still have a hole in my heart after many years, but it’s much smaller now because of God. Every time I feel His presence, every time I see His intervention in my life, every time I reach out to someone else, every time He grants me blessings, the hole in my heart gets smaller and is being replaced with His own heart.”

    Professional counseling may help you. If you cannot afford it, perhaps your church pastor can help. Also, there may be a United Church of God congregation in your area. If so, perhaps you can seek counseling from one of our pastors. On our website, just click on “contact” and on the drop down menu, click on “find a congregation.”

    One important thing to remember is that you are not the first person to have suffered emotional trauma like this. You can learn from the experiences of others who have gone through similar trials, such as the lady who wrote the article you referenced. And, there are various women mentioned in the Bible who endured difficult trials in their lives.

    You might read the book of Ruth. Her husband died after just ten years of marriage. In the society of those days, it was very difficult for a single woman (widow) to survive financially. But rather than make it a priority to find a new husband who could provide for her, she decided to care for her mother-in-law who was also a widow. Significantly, Ruth chose to follow the true God of Israel rather than the gods of her homeland. The story has a happy ending, and Ruth became one of King David’s ancestors. However, life was difficult for her for several years. The single most important thing she did to improve her life was to seek the true God and His way of life.

    In our society, many profess to know and worship God, but few really believe Him and what His Word, the Bible, tells us to do. We encourage you to read our booklet entitled “Transforming Your Life.” You can find this and other informative and encouraging booklets at http://www.ucg.org/booklets/. Don’t give up. Your life is worth a lot to God.

    Personal Correspondence Team

  • Skip

    Dear Uneek,
    Once I felt like you and I almost did something stupid. Don’t!!!
    If you can, find a real friend and talk to them.
    Let yourself be helped.
    If you are alone (& have no real friend)
    then you must do what Sabrina Peabody has written above:
    Read those scriptures & believe them. We are a Church body.
    We BELIEVE certain things that make absolute good sense.
    I want to add two scriptures that I hope I never forget:
    Matt 10: 22 (Endures means to hang on in a hurricane.)
    Heb 13: 5 (The writer of Hebrews is talking about Jesus Christ!)

    Christ can be found; keep looking.

  • Maryinsilence

    Im just new in this site… Pls pray for me… Im so down and scared… Just last nov 5 i had an emergency c-section due to placenta previa.. He was just 28 weeks.. And was at the icu incubator but after 2 days he died.. Im so scared that my next pregnancy would be the same… That i might loos a child again and next my husband.. Im scared that he will leave me if i cant give him children.. I know he loves me so much.. But i cant help to be scared.. I cant sleep anymore because of this.. I keep on asking why dis happening to us… We can be better parents so why us? The dr said that i need atlis a year to be pregnant again.. I feel that dis will be the longest and darkest year of my life… Pls pray for me…

  • Mary Lauren

    Dear Healseeker,

    You are not alone. I am exactly in the same situation as you are for a month now. It is still very painful. I didn’t know it was coming. I don’t feel any anger to the person who cause me this so much pain, and I do not know how long will it last. I try to understand the person, there maybe a reason beyond our knowledge. Every time I think of the person (which is everyday) I can’t help but cry. Tears help ease up the pain inside.

    Faith keeps me going. I know Jesus is holding fast to my hands and walking with me right now and I know in time, the pain will heal. How long will I wait? I don’t know. I just know that God writes straight even in crooked line. Hold on to your faith, don’t be discourage, pray. Time will heal the wounds.

    Suffering is a way to help us grow stronger, to bring us closer to God and mature in dealing with life’s situation. I know it is easy said than done for us who are suffering right now. But God’s grace will heal our wounds. Never forget, whatever pain and suffering we have right now, our Lord Jesus had experienced it and so He knows what you and I and others are going through and He is with you as He is with me right now.

    Let us live our faith, that after this ‘darkness’ there will come the light. God will see us through. Keep up the faith.

    Union of prayers.

  • paula

    my partner broke up with me last december 2. and it really hurts because i love her a lot, yes, that’s right it’s a HER (lesbian). we’ve been together for 3 years.we have plans and dreams together. until one day she told me that she love me but not enough to continue our relationship. it really hurts. feels like i’m dying. i don’t know where to start. i just want to lie in my bed and cry all day long. sometimes i’m even thinking that i guess it is better to die so there would be no more pain..

    everyday i’m praying that God will take away all the pain. sometimes i’m praying that God will give her back to me. i don’t know where to start, i don’t know what to do. i love her so much and i miss her so bad. i don’t know why is this happening to me. i’m not a perfect girlfriend but i’m doing/giving my best to show to her how much i love her..

  • United Church of God

    Dear Paula,

    Thank you for sharing your deep emotional pain with us. Emotional pain and loss is something that no one escapes. Everyone will experience losses in their life, which can then become a crisis situation for us to have to deal with.

    When that happens, our crisis can present us with an opportunity to change our life for the better or it can cause our life to take a turn for the worse, depending on how we respond to that crisis and depending on what action we take. God wants us to discover and fulfill the purpose for which we were born and God wants us to discover the real meaning of life. A crisis can be an opportunity for doing that, even though we may feel the pain will never go away. It can become an opportunity to change the course and direction of our life.

    All personal relationships can involve some pain, whether through death, separation or every day trials. As you have discovered, depending on another person for our happiness will often bring disappointment sooner or later. This crisis is now an opportunity for you to discover your talents, your creativity, your strengths and God’s purpose for your life.

    God summarized the purpose for which we were born…

  • United Church of God

    when He said: “Let Us make man in Our image, according to Our likeness” (Genesis 1:26). God wants us to become like Him, so we can become members of His family. To that end, God created the husband/wife relationship, which the apostle Paul likens to Christ’s relationship to His church (Ephesians 5:22-32).

    We have all been molded and shaped by our experiences in life, which have made us who we are. God wants to help us change who we are, so we can become who He wants us to be. So we can obtain our potential of becoming like Him. To achieve that potential, we must overcome who we are. “He who overcomes shall inherit all things” (Revelation 21:7).

    In our society today, homosexuality is being approved by more and more people, yet this is contrary to what the scriptures teach. God told ancient Israel it was an abomination “if a man lies with a male as he lies with a woman” (Leviticus 20:13). You could also read Genesis 19:1-11 where the Sodomites wanted to perform homosexual acts and Lot begged them, “Please, my brethren, do not do so wickedly” (verse seven).

    God’s views on this have not changed. In the New Testament, Paul said, “Do not be deceived. Neither fornicators,

  • United Church of God

    nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor homosexuals, nor sodomites, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God. And such were some of you” (1 Corinthians 6:9-11). There were a number of people in the churches where Paul preached who had such lifestyles in the past. However, they decided to change, and with God’s help they were able to change and have much happier lives.

    The good news is that you can also change. As Paul showed, all such sins can be forgiven by the sacrifice of Christ (1 Corinthians 6:9-11). For more information we recommend that you go to www.ucg.org and do a “word search” for “homosexuality.” You will find several articles that might be helpful to you.

    I also suggest you read some of our free booklets, such as “What Is Your Destiny?” “Making Life Work” and “Transforming Your Life: The Process of Conversion.” You can access these on our web site at http://www.ucg.org/booklets/. We will send you hard copies, if you wish. All you have to do is order them online.

    We hope you will continue reading our literature and find new meaning and purpose for your life.

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  • Northwest reader

    It is heart warming to read all the posts who encourage others through difficult times. I cannot add more to the wisdom posted but I will pray for you. I know God has granted great joy after great sadness so please keep turning to Him.

  • lynnie

    I was feeling broken hearted and I googled Father please mend my broken heart and this website came up. I just came out of a 5 year relationship with my boyfriend. He broke up with me in july. I was getting along fine but I caught up with him for New Years Celebration. He said he missed me, teared and hugged me. I held back my tears. I feel so torn and confused inside.

    My sister prayed and she just advised me today that she has been praying for me since and she have a strong feeling that nothing good will come out of this especially she can feel that I will be so hurt again. My family and close friends says he is no good for me.

    I know deep in my heart that he is no good for me. But how can someone I love so much be so wrong for me. Our chemistry together was and is still so strong. I prayed that God will show me and help me overcome this. Has anyone experience this kind of strong love where you feel you just lose yourself to the point of no return.

  • Sabrina Peabody

    Hi Lynnie,

    I am sorry to hear about the pain you are going through. Five years is a long time to be with someone and so if you are going to get over him, it will also take some time. It is very important to consider input from those who truly love and know you. If you feel like deep down he isn’t the right one, then do your best to be strong and do not go back to him. Chemistry will only last so long and you do not want to be stuck in a marriage relationship with someone you are incompatable with and who doesn’t share the same goals in life. It will be even more lonely than how you feel now.

    One thing that helped me was going on dates with God. I would plan to go to the lake or somewhere special and read the Bible and pray to Him. Building that relationship is the most important and God and the His words will guide you to pick a godly mate. You want to be with someone who will share the same spiritual goals too. Here is an e-book from UCG on dating that you also may find helpful:

    http://www.ucg.org/ebooklet/guys-girls-and-god-dating-and-relationships-work/

    Stay strong and pray God will direct your path in your relationships.

  • MamaLove020210
    Hi! Its been 5 months since my husband left me and still broken hearted, we are married for four years and have daughter, our married life is happy, he had a good job, i have also mine,we loved each other very much we experience a lot of trials like lost of our first baby, then after three moths i get pregnant (twin pregnancy) but lost the other twin after 19 days, We have long terms plans for our family until this trial came in our lives, Yes i do have mistakes and I admit it and do everything to save our marriage, I quit in my job and willing to focus on the family and become full time housewife, First we fixed this and compromised that we will start a new chapter of our lives but after two weeks he left us, and until now, i dont know if he’s willing to save our family, our marriage every time i talked with him, he always say that he dont want to be with me anymore, Every time i think of him and think of our broken marriage my heart is crushed and i cannot explain the pain and i don’t even know how to fixed this. Every day, I always pray to our God that help him to realize the importance of family and show him the way to come back to us, and restore our marriage
  • hithere
    Ive been seperated from my wife 5 ½ months. Shes been seperated from me for 7/ ½ months. Yep, she started her affair 2 months before leaving me. During our seperation God drew me closer to him by correcting me first. Whats more important to me? My relationship with God our my marriage, God ask me once. I had to give the Sunday school answer and say God was. Sure enough, as time passed my relationship with God did mean more to me and then he began working in me, then my wife. She was misreable where she was at (other guy’s house). I went through high and lows of every emotion possible. Name it, i felt it!! But wow, God heals everything and corrects everything for his glory, Amen! He spoke to me and to her. Now she is sleeping next to me while I type this out :) What i did learn was to seek God first and put everthing at his feet. And what i tried to do in 5.5 months he did just under 5 weeks! Trust in God and his will will superceed everyone’s will. Dont listen to the enemies lies. Prodigals lives aren’t as great as we think they are or as the enemy puts it. Keep standing for your marriage and know God can heal your hurt, God can give you peace. Don’t quit..LET GO & LET GOD
  • janettread
    Always, always, ask God to encourage you. Always, always, remember it takes time to heal. Sadly, we live in a world that we want it now! Instant gratification not everything can be acquired instantly. Especailly emotional healing. Take one day at a time. Get involved with helping others to heal. Taking your mind off your pain and placing your mind on helping others makes a huge difference in the healing process. Never never give up! Janet Treadway
  • Ivan Veller
    Dear Uneek, my heart goes out to you! David experienced similar emotions: “I am overwhelmed by my troubles… My heart pounds in my chest… Fear and trembling overwhelm me, and I can’t stop shaking. Oh, that I had wings like a dove…how quickly I would escape… Everything is falling apart…my companion and close friend…betrayed…he broke his promises” (Psalms 55:2-20 Psalms 55:2-20 2 Attend to me, and hear me: I mourn in my complaint, and make a noise; 3 Because of the voice of the enemy, because of the oppression of the wicked: for they cast iniquity on me, and in wrath they hate me. 4 My heart is sore pained within me: and the terrors of death are fallen on me. 5 Fearfulness and trembling are come on me, and horror has overwhelmed me. 6 And I said, Oh that I had wings like a dove! for then would I fly away, and be at rest. 7 See, then would I wander far off, and remain in the wilderness. Selah. 8 I would hasten my escape from the windy storm and tempest. 9 Destroy, O Lord, and divide their tongues: for I have seen violence and strife in the city. 10 Day and night they go about it on the walls thereof: mischief also and sorrow are in the middle of it. 11 Wickedness is in the middle thereof: deceit and guile depart not from her streets. 12 For it was not an enemy that reproached me; then I could have borne it: neither was it he that hated me that did magnify himself against me; then I would have hid myself from him: 13 But it was you, a man my equal, my guide, and my acquaintance. 14 We took sweet counsel together, and walked to the house of God in company. 15 Let death seize on them, and let them go down quick into hell: for wickedness is in their dwellings, and among them. 16 As for me, I will call on God; and the LORD shall save me. 17 Evening, and morning, and at noon, will I pray, and cry aloud: and he shall hear my voice. 18 He has delivered my soul in peace from the battle that was against me: for there were many with me. 19 God shall hear, and afflict them, even he that stays of old. Selah.Because they have no changes, therefore they fear not God. 20 He has put forth his hands against such as be at peace with him: he has broken his covenant.
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    NLT 2010). God personally provided needed care: “Morning, noon, and night I cry out in my distress, and the LORD hears my voice…Give your burdens to the LORD, and He will take care of you. He will not permit the godly to slip and fall” (vv. 17, 22). “God is faithful. He will not allow [this] to be more than you can stand…He will show you a way out so that you can endure” (1 Corinthians 10:13 1 Corinthians 10:13There has no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that you are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that you may be able to bear it.
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    b). He is trustworthy and loyal, and we can rely on his promised relief. God can create good out of this: “you planned evil against me but God used those same plans for my good” (Genesis 50:20 Genesis 50:20But as for you, you thought evil against me; but God meant it to good, to bring to pass, as it is this day, to save much people alive.
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    a MSG)—and “the survival [“salvation” (BBE)] of many people” (HCSB). Joseph told his brothers, “‘Therefore don’t be afraid. I will take care of you…’ And he comforted them and spoke kindly to them” (v. 21), paying forward the comfort God had given him.
  • Ivan Veller
    “He allows trials and suffering to occur in our lives for one purpose only—because it’s sometimes through the difficulties and the pain that He can take and shape us into the best we can be…God loves and cares deeply about you”: http://www.ucg.org/bible-faq/if-god-knows-im-hurting-why-doesnt-he-help-me A friend of mine hopes you seek a counselor who specializes in grief work or depression (google “therapist locator” to find a licensed therapist in your area) and look “for the silver lining—to remember the afflictions of the Apostle Paul when he was in prison in Philippi and yet could say he was content where he was (Philippians 4:11 Philippians 4:11Not that I speak in respect of want: for I have learned, in whatever state I am, therewith to be content.
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    ) and how Peter urged us to cast our cares (worries, fears, anxieties) on God for He cares for us (1 Peter 5:7 1 Peter 5:7Casting all your care on him; for he cares for you.
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    ).” Lastly (the profile says it’s your birthday), you are so precious to God: “Never underestimate the value of your life. You were born to become one of God’s divine children. You were born to receive His very nature and character and, eventually, eternal life on His level of existence”: http://www.ucg.org/booklet/what-your-destiny/life-gods-family/ God has “immeasurable love” for you: http://www.ucg.org/christian-living/breathtaking-love-gods-love/
  • Corey Gennaro
    Melsea, I am truly sorry for what you have already been through and will have to go through. Divorce as you now know is a disgusting thing to go through, do you see why God HATES divorce? God has a way of working things out for those who love God (Romans 8:28 Romans 8:28And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.
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    ). Take time, a lot of time, and just wait. Things will get better and always do if you love God. Turn toward God for the help and listen for what God tells you by searching the scripture daily Acts 17:11 Acts 17:11These were more noble than those in Thessalonica, in that they received the word with all readiness of mind, and searched the scriptures daily, whether those things were so.
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    . In time you will see that it will all work out. Remember that you are not alone; my parents went through a divorce 4 years ago. I am just starting to see the wonderful plan that God worked out for my whole family. Through the whole divorce it was miserable, but in time great things came out of it and it changed our family for the better even though it was not the way God would have had us to change. Hang in there!
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