Research by the Marriage Foundation and the University of Lincoln in England reveal that unmarried couples are four times more likely to split than married couples.

5.3 percent of cohabiting relationships end each year (2009 to 2012) in comparison to 1.3 percent of married couples, both among couples with children under sixteen years old.

Experts admit that this goes against the standard assumption that low income and poor education result in broken homes, especially as education rates increase. Clearly another element has been at work, and cohabiting appears to be it (Steve Doughty, “Most Family Break-ups Involve Unmarried Parents: Co-habiting Couples Four Times as Likely to Separate,” DailyMail.co.uk, December 1, 2013).

God created the institution of marriage with the first married couple (Genesis 2:18-25), Adam and Eve. Although many people choose to reject it as a blessed command from God, it provides what cohabiting does not—a fundamental commitment. The value of this commitment shouldn’t be overlooked, even by those who follow God’s way. Commitment is a natural, healthy part of living a full human life.

Committing to marriage and working through imperfections in both husband and wife are a part of the growing process. Cohabiting doesn’t provide that very vital commitment that helps people to persevere through rough times. Love is a miracle, but it isn’t magic and does require effort and dedication.