November 13, 2012
Most people have an aversion to seeking advice.
On the other hand, some people cannot stop themselves from offering advice. Erica Jong said, "Advice is what we ask for when we already have the answer but wish we didn't." Jesus noted that people are very protective of themselves—lest their deeds should be exposed (John:3:20).
"A man who isolates himself seeks his own desire; he rages against all wise judgment" (Proverbs:18:1). It is to be noted that when we sincerely seek advice from the wise and experienced, in time we too will be the wise ones. Each good choice we make strengthens our desire and determination to make good judgments. Seeking and giving advice is an art in human communications. It can be honed and improved through practice. Some have concluded that the true secret in giving advice is to "stop persisting in trying to set people right."