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As Christians, we are taught to be lights to the world. Scripture reads, “Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works and glorify your Father in heaven” (Matthew 5:16). We hear the words, we know what they mean, but do we really consider how much of an impact they have? How we act—our example is very important to God. Why? Because we are examples of who God is, what His character is like.

It takes effort to change who we are and it is almost impossible when we refuse to separate ourselves from bad influences.

When we consider the examples Christ set for us, we should understand we are to emulate that behavior. We are to mirror His goodness, forgiveness and love towards all people. It is not always easy to do, but it is what God wants from us. We are God’s children and meant to stand apart from the world. Matthew 13:49 states that at the end of the age the angels will “separate the wicked from among the just.” The just will have lived as God commanded and have been a good example to those around them. “Therefore, we are ambassadors for Christ, God making his appeal through us. We implore you on behalf of Christ, be reconciled to God” (2 Corinthians 5:20, English Standard Version).

Have you ever been around someone who professes to be a Christian, but then goes about doing things that do not appear Christian at all? Maybe they use God’s name in vain or use profane language. Maybe they are superstitious, spread malicious gossip or are mean and cruel to others. When someone professes their love for God and Christ and then acts foolishly, it reflects poorly on God and His people. How can we be lights to the people of the world when we are living this way? We cannot. "They profess to know God, but in works they deny Him, being abominable, disobedient, and disqualified for every good work" (Titus 1:16).

We are told to live differently. To be incorruptible, reverent, loving, temperate, etc. (Titus 2:1-8). It is also true that if we are living as good examples, but spend all our time with those who are corrupt, we will eventually fall into trouble (1 Corinthians 15:33). God understands that people tend to act and do as those around them, which is why He warns us to avoid such relationships. Think about it. That’s how traditions start, how languages develop and why we tend to use the same gestures and words our closest friends and family use. It comes upon us slowly and sometimes even surprises us when we do or say something out of character.

It takes effort to change who we are and it is almost impossible when we refuse to separate ourselves from bad influences. “Beloved, do not imitate what is evil, but what is good. He who does good is of God, but he who does evil has not seen God” (3 John 1:11). Paul reminds us to not “let our good be spoken of as evil” (Romans 14:16). This can happen when we slip up in what we say and do. Others often look for bad in us. If we go along doing well in their eyes and then stumble by speaking evil of another, or swearing when they have never heard us do so, or do anything uncomely in front of them, they often erase all the good we have done and focus on that one bad thing. That is why it is so important to make changes that change who we are internally.

Knowing this, we must be even more aware of how we treat others who are not close to us or that do good towards us. Are we being a good example to all? (Luke 6:33). It needs to come naturally for us. We must internalize the behavior and be genuine in it (Psalms 37:27). If we don’t, people will see right through our deception. “So then, as we have opportunity, let us do good to everyone, and especially to those who are of the household of faith” (Galatians 6:10). It has to become part of our nature.

Of course, none of us are perfect. But we are to continually strive to be so (Matthew 5:48). It is a learning process. Psalm 18:32 tells us it is God who gives us the strength to get there. And Galatians 3:3 tells us we are being made perfect by the Holy Spirit. Without God’s help, we could never master it, but the intention to do so must begin with us. We must take the first steps to be all that God would have us to be if we want to be a part of the glorious future He has planned for us. Being a good example to others seems little to ask.

Comments

  • Tina Cason

    Awesome article and great reminders that we all need! Thank you!

  • KARS

    Lorelei, it's family that begins to notice the changes in us. Especially those of us not born in the church. They see the process of our conversion and the manors, language, deeds of the past change for the better. I have actually heard a family member not in the church notice the difference of a church member. Following God's way of life does change one over time even with the mistakes we tend to make along the way while trying to remove the lusts of the flesh and so forth. :^)

  • Lorelei Nettles

    So true Kathy. At my last job, people were pretty foul-mouthed. If I was nearby and they didn't see me when they swore, they would apologize. They knew I didn't swear and they were embarrassed when they did it around me even though I had never said a word about it to them. Our example matters.

  • Lorelei Nettles

    Hello John Gordon!

    I understand what you are saying. God must call us and help us along the way but we have to make the choice to listen and follow that instruction. This means we must take the first step. If God wanted automatons He would not have given us choices. Christ told us to be lights to the world and many choose not to do so. We are lights by our actions. It's what others see us do or say and how we live our lives.

  • J G

    Lorelei, to insist that you "must take the first step" is to DENY the scriptures I already cited.
    This world's god "...HATH BLINDED the minds of them which BELIEVE NOT, lest the light of the glorious gospel of Christ, who is the image of God, should shine unto them." 2 Cor 4:4
    Mankind CANNOT direct his own steps, let alone take some first step (Gen 8:21; Rom 8:7; Jas 4:5)!
    God, building His Church, takes all required first steps to "...SET the members EVERY ONE of them IN THE BODY, AS IT PLEASED HIM." I Cor 12:18; Phil 1:6; Deut 29:4
    People do not direct their steps, says Jeremiah 10:23 "...I know that the way of man is NOT IN himSELF: it is NOT IN man that walketh TO DIRECT HIS STEPS."
    How good is your repentance? Have you taken steps to choose to never sin again, and made your choice stick?
    If you could take some first step, then why was Jesus Christ sent and been murdered?
    Are you stronger/wiser than Paul who, near the end of his life, told us why: "...ye CANNOT DO the THINGS that YE WOULD"? Gal 5:17; Rom 7:20-21
    Incidentally, God makes pawns: not automatons/robots. Jesus Christ was God's perfect Pawn.
    As "lights," good works do ALWAYS FLORIFY the FATHER; not the SELF.

  • Destain

    Thank you Lorelei, it's not always easy but a much needed reminder!
    God bless,
    Destain Dückert

  • J G

    Concluding paragraph stated: "...We must take the first steps to be all that God would have us to be if we want to be a part of the glorious future He has planned for us..."
    We must take the first steps? That has never worked and God knows it, because if God does not take the first steps, and continue to drag us along, then people are simply left to do their own thing under the control of the god of this present evil world.
    For example, God by His Spirit (Zech 4:6) through His Son is in the process of building His Church and only He can take that first step.
    "No man can come to me, except the Father which hath sent me draw him..." John 6:44 And that word "draw" means "drag." Our Father always takes the first dragging step (Ps 32:8); more steps will follow, b/c He must give us the "to will" and the "to do" (Phil 2:13), along with the fruits of His Spirit, to produce good works (Eph 2:10; John 14:10) in our lives and MAKE us accepted in the beloved (Eph 1:6): God''s Church. Everything God does is done decently and in order. What about the last step?
    "Being confident of this very thing, that he which hath BEGUN a good WORK in you WILL PERFORM it until the day of Jesus Christ:"

  • KARS

    John Gordon! Now. Let's look at this another way and see what you think. We (peoples) are all going through our own spiritual Sinai Wilderness of trials and tribulations; having our hearts testing by God and then called by the Father to the crossroads of life. When Joshua took the children of Israel back to the promise land what did he say? It was a first step that they had to make (remember the old generation of complainers died in the wilderness, they had a chance to repent but chose not too after they commit spiritual adultery before God at Mount Sinai. They ended up dying anyway.) "And if it seem evil to you to serve the LORD, choose for yourselves whom you shall serve,..." Joshua 24: 15. "No servant can serve two masters; for either he will hate the one and love the other, or else he will be loyal to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve God and mammon." Luke 16:15. So, we have to make a chose, a first step. God or mammon. As for me and my house we will serve the LORD.

  • J G

    Kathy replied: "..Joshua..what did he say?"
    God knows, and his example was preserved for you us!
    "KNOWN unto God ARE ALL HIS WORKS from the beginning of the world!" Acts 15:18
    Generation of complainers represents humanity, unable to choose repentance (John 14:17) on their own, under god of this world (Eph 2:2; I John 3:8).
    John 16:33 says, in this world we all have tribulation (no exceptions) but God is WORKING His perfect Plan of Salvation (Ps 74:12).
    What did God (hint: Zech 4:6) do for Joshua? God’s choice!
    Nu 27:18 And the LORD said unto Moses, Take thee Joshua the son of Nun, a man in whom is THE SPIRIT, and lay thine hand upon him;
    De 34:9 And Joshua the son of Nun was FULL OF THE SPIRIT OF WISDOM; for Moses had laid his hands upon him: and the children of Israel hearkened unto him, and did as the LORD commanded Moses.
    Even while Aaron was making that golden calf God, years in advance, was training Joshua to be the next Israelite leader! There was no testing of Joshua; God just does it...e.g. to benefit all of us!
    "Now all these things happened unto them for ENSAMPLES: and they are written for our admonition, upon whom the ends of the world are come." 1 Cor 10:11

  • KARS

    You know what John, what I have heard over the years is that God our Father is testing all the hearts of men (peoples). That His holy spirit is working with man until we are called to faith, repentance, baptism, and the laying on of hands for the gift of the holy spirit. Which becomes a part of us after baptism and Jesus Christ uses this portion of God's holy spirit to change us from within.
    I believe this to be true. He does not forsake humanity. God is always present in our lives. He is waiting for us to respond for many are called and few are chosen. We all have free choice just like God's angels so long ago. We know what happened to one of God's cheribium and the 1/3 of his angels.

  • J G

    Kathy, who told you that "God our Father is testing all the hearts of men (peoples)"? Is God unaware of hearts? Besides, the words TEST and TESTING aren't in the KJV of the Bible, but I do find the following relative to God's creation MADE SUBJECT to VANITY:
    Jo 5:22 "For the FATHER judgeth NO MAN.."
    Eccl 3:11 He hath MADE every thing beautiful in his time: also he hath SET THE WORLD IN their HEART, so that no man can find out the work that God MAKETH FROM the BEGINNING TO the END.
    Isa 46:10 DECLARING the END FROM the BEGINNING, and from ancient times the things that are NOT yet done, saying, My counsel shall stand, and I WILL DO all my pleasure:
    God knows His works (Acts 15:18) & hearts:
    1 Jo 3:20 "..GOD IS GREATER THAN our HEART, AND KNOWETH all things.
    Wasn't Israel, part of humanity, forsaken?
    Isa 54:7 "For a small moment HAVE I FORSAKEN thee.."
    :8 "In a little wrath I hid my face from thee FOR A MOMENT..."
    We, not God, wait for the LORD who said: "I FORM the light, and CREATE darkness: I MAKE peace, and CREATE evil.." Isa 45:7
    "FAITHFUL is HE THAT CALLETH you, who ALSO WILL DO IT." I Thess 5:24
    Also, faithful will you (Phil 1:6, 2:13; Jo 17:23) be when God calls you!

  • KARS

    Thanks John for bringing the scripture Isa 54:7 to my attention. I totally understand why the LORD did this. Did he not send his prophets time and time again to tell Israel of their sins? God is patient and long-suffering. There comes a time when one finally says "Enough is enough!" So I understand why the LORD had: "Have I forsaken thee".

    I Thessalonians 2:4 "....but God, which trieth our hearts." KJV "...but God who tests our hearts." NKJV "...but to please God who tests our hearts." ESV "...We are not trying to please men but God, who tests our hearts." NIV "...not to win favor with people but with God, who tests our hearts." JCB
    I have heard this over and over again. I have re-read the chapter tonight from verse one. The ministry I've listen to has said it not only applied to the Apostles but to all the members of the church including us today.
    As for taking that first step towards repentance, it does have to be taken. For one night when I couldn't take it anymore I took that step and prayed to God and he began to lead me. I do not deny this for I know it is true.

  • J G

    Kathy, thanks for providing the opinions of other translators for I Thess 2:4, while KJV states: "But as we were allowed of God to be put in trust with the gospel, even so we speak; not as pleasing men, but God, which trieth our hearts."
    In context, within the first 10 verses of that chapter Paul is telling the Thessalonian brethren the attitude of the Apostles towards them as they preached to them the gospel of God, and that God and they are witnesses as to how the Apostles behaved themselves.
    The Greek word dokimazo #1381 for trieth, via Strong's Concordance, means:
    1) to test, examine, prove, scrutinise (to see whether a thing is genuine or not), as metals
    2) to recognize as genuine after examination, to approve, deem worthy
    And #1381 comes from dokimos #1384, which says:
    1) accepted, particularly of coins and money.
    2) accepted, pleasing, acceptable
    Paul was confident that God had examined, accepted, tested if you will, the hearts of the Apostles in how they preached the gospel of God and asked the brethren to also accept them as God had done.
    :10 "Ye are witnesses, and God also, how holily and justly and unblameably we behaved ourselves among you that believe:"

  • KARS

    Hello John, this is becoming a long conversation of postings. :^) Once again what you have posted is not incorrect. I just have certain sermons imbedded into my mind from the ministry. For instance I've heard this many a time; preach the gospel to all men, then the end shall come.
    We share the gospel with others by our words and actions. We give an answer for the faith in us. We as a whole (the church) are responsible for our behavior whereever we go in this world. So we have been told we (the church) are being tested and judged. I believe this. There is no doubt in my heart about this. I have proving it with scripture and the Strong Concordance many a time. Not to mention Vine's Dictionary, Holman Bible Dictionary, different translations of the bible including Moffitt translation. I ask God in prayer for the answers before I open any of these books including His Word the Holy Bible; in His son's name as we have been instructed by Jesus Christ. I know what I am doing. When I don't and have trouble finding the answer, I ask for help by the instructions given in the bible. Oh sometimes my friend and I may go round and round, but in the end, we find my answer.
    Peace comes again.

  • J G

    Kathy, you wrote: "So we have been told we (the church) are being tested and judged."
    Daily we all continue to sin (Rom 3:23) and fall short of the glory of God, so much so that if God were to judge you today, right now, by whatever standard you have in mind you would die and go straight to hell, and so would I! And if you say you have no sin...well, there's I John 1:8!
    When the Apostle Paul wrote "...there is none that seeketh after God;" (Rom 3:11-12) I believe him, and Paul quoting from Psalm 14:2-3. If God does not take some "first step" to cause change in our lives, we are all "dead humans walking" in the course of this world. You sin; you die. You know that; most of the world does not know that.
    We are all part of a creation made subject to vanity (Rom 8:20) with a spirit in man of James 4:5; I John 3:8. We are all sold unto sin (Rom 7:20-21). Hope?
    God is the Doer and He keeps all His promises. For example, "For thus saith the LORD; Like as I have brought all this great evil upon this people, so will I bring upon them all the good that I have promised them." Jer 40:42
    "Who will have all men to be saved...." I Ti 2:4
    However, God does all that: Thy Will be done!

  • Lorelei Nettles

    John, I am not sure if you are upset about people being tested, about people taking the first step, or if you are trying to say that people must be called first? Also will you please stop yelling (all caps) it is not necessary we can read your words.

    I know that before I was called by God I was taking "first steps" towards God. I can look back at my life and see that. I searched for God and I yearned for my life to be filled. Since that time, I have also faced many trials (testing) and they have strengthened me. Here are some scriptures I feel kind of answer your question to Kathy. Jeremiah 17:10, 1 Chronicles 29:17, Psalm 11:5.

  • J G

    Jer 17:10 says: “I the LORD search the heart, I try the reins, even to give every man...”
    Did God get Godzheimer’s Disease? Did God forget prev. verse?
    :9 “The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked..”
    That is your/my heart!
    Gen 6:5 And GOD saw that the wickedness of man was great in the earth, and that every imagination of the thoughts of his heart was only evil continually.
    Ps 58:3 The wicked are estranged from the womb: they go astray as soon as they be born, speaking lies.
    Rom 8:7 Because the carnal mind is enmity against God: for it is not subject to the law of God, neither indeed can be.
    Lu 11:13 “If ye then, being evil..”
    And those who are the workmanship of God’s hands?
    Rom 7:18 “For I know that in me (that is, in my flesh,) dwelleth no good thing..”
    19 For the good that I would I do not: but the evil which I would not, that I do.
    20 Now if I do that I would not, it is no more I that do it, but sin that dwelleth in me.
    21 I find then a law, that, when I would do good, evil is present with me.
    God will take all necessary steps to prepare hearts of those He foreknows (Rom 8:29-30; I Ch 29:18-19).
    God knows how to make man upright (Eccl 7:29)

  • Lorelei Nettles

    Thank you, Howard I appreciate the feedback. I realize in this world of arguing and strife it can be a difficult thing to do. It does take some effort on our part to make it learned behavior.

  • staffordmotion@yahoo.com

    Thank you, I think this is the most important message to be a good Christian. How can we make the world a better place if we don't start with our families, neighbors and congregation. I believe that Jesus Christ is our Lord and Savior and "Being a Good Example" is the first lesson to being good Christians. I really appreciate this article.
    God bless,
    Howard Stafford

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