We are all faced with daily choices. Paper or plastic? Cream and sugar? Pie or cookies? These choices are easy to make based on our routines, preferences and whims. But what about the bigger choices…Should I take that job in another state? Whom should I marry? Do I want to adopt a child? These can often leave us floundering in indecision, making endless pro and con lists as we try to determine what direction God would want us to take. All Christians recognize that we “no longer should live the rest of [our] time in the flesh for the lusts of men, but for the will of God” (1 Peter 4:2 1 Peter 4:2That he no longer should live the rest of his time in the flesh to the lusts of men, but to the will of God.
American King James Version×). But what exactly is God’s will for our lives?
The starting place
The best place to go for answers about life's major decisions is always in the pages of our Bible. It is there that we are able to seek to understand and follow God’s will. Let’s take a look at some scriptures. David was faced with these same questions about God’s will, and he wrote in Psalms 143:10 Psalms 143:10Teach me to do your will; for you are my God: your spirit is good; lead me into the land of uprightness.
American King James Version×, “Teach me to do your will, for You are my God…” (emphasis added throughout). Here we see that doing God’s will does not come naturally to us. God must teach us to do His will and we are expected to seek out that teaching of His will.
We are also expected to meditate on it. Paul urged early Church members to, “…not be unwise, but understand [the word for understand in Strong’s Concordance means “to put together mentally, to comprehend, consider”] what the will of the Lord is” (Ephesians 5:17 Ephesians 5:17Why be you not unwise, but understanding what the will of the Lord is.
American King James Version×). It’s hard to find the mental space amidst the clamor of our daily thoughts to devote to thinking deeply about God’s will, but Paul points out how essential it is to do so. If it’s hard to do so, then we should ask for the wisdom that Paul says leads to such focus, and God promises to give it to you (James 1:5-6 James 1:5-6  If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that gives to all men liberally, and upbraides not; and it shall be given him.  But let him ask in faith, nothing wavering. For he that wavers is like a wave of the sea driven with the wind and tossed.
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In doing this, a byproduct will be improvements in our relationships with God and others. Paul told the Colossians that he did “not cease to pray for you, and to ask that you may be filled with the knowledge of His will in all wisdom and spiritual understanding, that you may walk worthy of the Lord, fully pleasing Him, being fruitful in every good work…” (Colossians 1:9-10 Colossians 1:9-10  For this cause we also, since the day we heard it, do not cease to pray for you, and to desire that you might be filled with the knowledge of his will in all wisdom and spiritual understanding;
 That you might walk worthy of the Lord to all pleasing, being fruitful in every good work, and increasing in the knowledge of God;
American King James Version×). The result of doing God’s will is the development of the fruits of God’s Spirit (Colossians 1:11-12 Colossians 1:11-12  Strengthened with all might, according to his glorious power, to all patience and long-suffering with joyfulness;  Giving thanks to the Father, which has made us meet to be partakers of the inheritance of the saints in light:
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Doing God’s will determines your eternal future
By learning how to understand and do God’s will now, we will be ably prepared for our future roles as kings, priests and judges once Christ has returned and established God’s Kingdom.
Christ showed us all that we need to pray “Your kingdom come, Your will be done on earth as it is in heaven” (Matthew 6:10 Matthew 6:10Your kingdom come, Your will be done in earth, as it is in heaven.
American King James Version×) on a daily basis. God’s will has a future focus as He desires to fulfill His plan for everyone who has ever lived. To be a part of His plan, we must actively do His will. It is only then that we are welcome in His eternal family (Matthew 12:50 Matthew 12:50For whoever shall do the will of my Father which is in heaven, the same is my brother, and sister, and mother.
American King James Version×). Unfortunately, it is all too easy to get sucked into the minutiae of daily living and forget that “…the world is passing away, and the lust of it; but he who does the will of God abides forever” (1 John 2:17 1 John 2:17And the world passes away, and the lust thereof: but he that does the will of God stays for ever.
American King James Version×). God’s will and the ways of this world system are incompatible. It is essential that each of us is striving to understand and do God’s will in order to pursue the only true, lasting investment we can make with our time, energy and resources in this life.
It is one thing to know God’s will in this life and it is another to actually do it. Luke records Christ saying, “…that servant who knew his master’s will, and did not prepare himself or do according to his will, shall be beaten with many stripes” (Luke 12:47 Luke 12:47And that servant, which knew his lord's will, and prepared not himself, neither did according to his will, shall be beaten with many stripes.
American King James Version×). If we are not actively pursuing God’s will for ourselves, He may make sure we go through a sufficient number of trials and difficulties to shape us into what He wants us to be for all eternity.
Only in submitting to God’s will (as we learn His will) in this life can we appropriately and adequately fulfill our future roles. As Christ stated, “I can of Myself do nothing. As I hear, I judge; and My judgment is righteous, because I do not seek My own will but the will of the Father who sent Me” (John 5:30 John 5:30I can of my own self do nothing: as I hear, I judge: and my judgment is just; because I seek not my own will, but the will of the Father which has sent me.
American King James Version×). In order to learn to judge the world with righteous judgment as we are destined to do (1 Corinthians 6:2 1 Corinthians 6:2Do you not know that the saints shall judge the world? and if the world shall be judged by you, are you unworthy to judge the smallest matters?
American King James Version×; John 7:24 John 7:24Judge not according to the appearance, but judge righteous judgment.
American King James Version×), we must seek God’s will as Christ wholeheartedly did during His life.
He wants us to show others how to follow a similar path (James 1:18 James 1:18Of his own will begat he us with the word of truth, that we should be a kind of first fruits of his creatures.
American King James Version×). His desire is that all will someday have the same opportunities we have now. As Christ pointed out, “For I have come down from heaven, not to do My own will, but the will of the Father who sent Me, that of all He has given Me I should lose nothing, but should raise it up at the last day. And this is the will of Him who sent Me, that everyone who sees the Son and believes in Him may have everlasting life; and I will raise him up at the last day” (John 6:39-40 John 6:39-40  And this is the Father's will which has sent me, that of all which he has given me I should lose nothing, but should raise it up again at the last day.  And this is the will of him that sent me, that every one which sees the Son, and believes on him, may have everlasting life: and I will raise him up at the last day.
American King James Version×). Consider your words and actions. Are they reflecting well on the God Family and helping others move toward the Kingdom of God, or are you mimicking more of what you see in the world around you? Ask God to help you see clearly if you’re not sure.
What exactly is God’s will?
We know doing God’s will is essential for our future, but what are some practical aspects of it that we can know today? God’s will involves following His laws. After all, King David said, “I delight to do Your will, O my God, and Your law is within my heart” (Psalms 40:8 Psalms 40:8I delight to do your will, O my God: yes, your law is within my heart.
American King James Version×). David, though he was not perfect, spent his life pursuing an understanding and practice of God’s laws. We must do the same. Study the Ten Commandments and gauge how you are measuring up to the deep spiritual principles imbedded in each (Matthew 23:23 Matthew 23:23Woe to you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! for you pay tithe of mint and anise and cummin, and have omitted the weightier matters of the law, judgment, mercy, and faith: these ought you to have done, and not to leave the other undone.
American King James Version×). Only by pursuing God’s law can we “know His will, and approve the things that are excellent” (Romans 2:18 Romans 2:18And know his will, and approve the things that are more excellent, being instructed out of the law;
American King James Version×). His law allows us to see what is truly good and right in life.
Paul urged early Church members to “…present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable to God, which is your reasonable service. And do not be conformed to the world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove [in Strong’s Concordance prove also means “allow, discern, examine, try”] what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God” (Romans 12:1-2 Romans 12:1-2  I beseech you therefore, brothers, by the mercies of God, that you present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable to God, which is your reasonable service.
 And be not conformed to this world: but be you transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.
American King James Version×). We see three more elements of living God’s will. First, we must be a sacrifice.
This means to be completely willing to surrender to what God says. It is absolute and total obedience and submission even though that royally chafes our human nature. It means giving up what we want for what He ultimately wants for us, and it means maintaining an attitude of thanksgiving and praise for His ultimate wisdom for our lives no matter what that might look like. Second, we have to make sure we’re not drifting into tolerance of the world’s sins. Making even tiny compromises with what the world says we primarily should pursue: rather than godly pursuits. creates a crack in our characters that will only grow ever wider as we focus more on the physical rather than the spiritual. Paul puts it succinctly, “For this is the will of God, your sanctification…” (1 Thessalonians 4:3 1 Thessalonians 4:3For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that you should abstain from fornication:
American King James Version×). You can’t get any clearer than that. We are to be set apart from the world’s system. We are to be different, even if that difference is uncomfortable at times. And third, we must counteract the world’s influence by renewing our minds through Bible study, rest on the Sabbath, prayer, service to others, fasting and more. Examine the fruit of God’s Spirit in Galatians 5:22-23 Galatians 5:22-23  But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, long-suffering, gentleness, goodness, faith,  Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law.
American King James Version×and ask God to help you to grow in areas you may be lacking.
All of this sounds like a tall order sometimes, but Christ said of His life, “My food is to do the will of Him who sent me, and to finish His work” (John 4:34). Doing God’s will is like eating food in that it will energize and sustain us on a daily basis. And it’s something that we must seek every day or we will soon spiritually starve. Each of us has to help “finish God’s work” by keeping the vision of the Kingdom alive in our minds and living toward that end (Micah 6:8 Micah 6:8He has showed you, O man, what is good; and what does the LORD require of you, but to do justly, and to love mercy, and to walk humbly with your God?
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God’s will also might mean that we may endure some difficult times. Peter wrote that “…it is better, if it is the will of God, to suffer for doing good than for doing evil” (1 Peter 3:17 1 Peter 3:17For it is better, if the will of God be so, that you suffer for well doing, than for evil doing.
American King James Version×). We are told that we cannot shy away from answering with truth and confidence when we are questioned or challenged in our beliefs (1 Peter 3:15-16 1 Peter 3:15-16  But sanctify the Lord God in your hearts: and be ready always to give an answer to every man that asks you a reason of the hope that is in you with meekness and fear:  Having a good conscience; that, whereas they speak evil of you, as of evildoers, they may be ashamed that falsely accuse your good conversation in Christ.
American King James Version×; 1 Peter 2:15). Christ suffered greatly to fulfill God’s will, and even though He asked for another outcome (Matthew 26:39 Matthew 26:39And he went a little farther, and fell on his face, and prayed, saying, O my Father, if it be possible, let this cup pass from me: nevertheless not as I will, but as you will.
American King James Version×, Matthew 26:42 Matthew 26:42He went away again the second time, and prayed, saying, O my Father, if this cup may not pass away from me, except I drink it, your will be done.
American King James Version×), He set the ultimate example of submission to what God desired for His life and death.
When going through a health trial, or even more maddeningly, watching a loved one go through physical pain, we still have to have the attitude that God’s will might mean the suffering may continue. We have to ask, as the leper did early in Christ’s ministry, “’Lord, if You are willing, You can make me clean’” (Matthew 8:2 Matthew 8:2And, behold, there came a leper and worshipped him, saying, Lord, if you will, you can make me clean.
American King James Version×). In that case, Christ healed him, but we have to recognize that God has a very good reason if His ultimate answer is “no” to healing someone.
God’s will is also about developing our spiritual gifts for the edification of His Church. After all, “But one and the same Spirit works all these things, distributing to each one individually as He wills” (1 Corinthians 12:11 1 Corinthians 12:11But all these works that one and the selfsame Spirit, dividing to every man severally as he will.
American King James Version×). Examine your gifts. God wants you to grow in them and use them to help others to grow. If you’re not sure what your spiritual gifts are, there are numerous books on the topic that can point you in the right direction.
Making concrete choices
So then how do you go about making the important choices of where to move or work and whom to marry and whether or not to have children, etc? Ask yourself questions to see which choice best pursues God’s ultimate will for you.
If your answers show that all of your choices are in accordance with God’s will, and you’re still not sure what to choose, seek out the advice and example of men and women of character in God’s Church (Proverbs 11:14 Proverbs 11:14Where no counsel is, the people fall: but in the multitude of counsellors there is safety.
American King James Version×). Ultimately, if you are seeking God’s will, He will make sure that “all things work together for good” (Romans 8:28 Romans 8:28And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.
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In a little book called, God is in the Small Stuff I found some wise words. "Don’t think that God is trying to play a guessing game with you. He is not difficult to find, and neither is His will for your life. But most people are looking for the wrong thing when they are trying to find God’s will. They are looking for a time, or a place, or a person, or a job. Oh, these things may be part of God’s plan, but His will for your life is mostly an attitude of your heart. God wants you to give Him a place of priority in your life…He wants your relationship with Him to be the part of your life that is most important to you. As you relinquish control of your future to God, you are doing God’s will for your life” (p. 280-281).
Or as David aptly put it, “Trust in the Lord, and do good…delight yourself also in the Lord, and He shall give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to the Lord, trust also in Him, and He shall bring it to pass” (Psalms 37:3-5 Psalms 37:3-5  Trust in the LORD, and do good; so shall you dwell in the land, and truly you shall be fed.
 Delight yourself also in the LORD: and he shall give you the desires of your heart.
 Commit your way to the LORD; trust also in him; and he shall bring it to pass.
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