I love my husband very much and want him to be saved and one day to be in heaven with me. But sometimes our marriage is absolute torture because of his behavior. He has no interest in being saved. Please pray for me and help me.

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I love my husband very much and want him to be saved and one day to be in heaven with me. But sometimes our marriage is absolute torture because of his behavior. He has no interest in being saved. Please pray for me and help me.

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We have read your lengthy letter (summarized above) carefully and truly empathize with your plight. We believe one or two points of essential knowledge about salvation may help you in coping. First of all, God has a much better future in store for us than the common conception of heaven as the reward of the saved. Our free booklet Heaven and Hell: What Does the Bible Really Teach? may prove very enlightening.

Secondly, one of the most important things we should come to realize about spiritual salvation is that God is not calling everyone to be a Christian in this present age. Actually only a few, whom the Bible terms "firstfruits" (James 1:18 James 1:18Of his own will begat he us with the word of truth, that we should be a kind of first fruits of his creatures.
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; Romans 8:23 Romans 8:23And not only they, but ourselves also, which have the first fruits of the Spirit, even we ourselves groan within ourselves, waiting for the adoption, to wit, the redemption of our body.
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; Hebrews 12:22-23 Hebrews 12:22-23 [22] But you are come to mount Sion, and to the city of the living God, the heavenly Jerusalem, and to an innumerable company of angels, [23] To the general assembly and church of the firstborn, which are written in heaven, and to God the Judge of all, and to the spirits of just men made perfect,
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), are being called to salvation today.

Although all will eventually have their opportunity, there is a time order built into the Creator's plan of salvation for humankind. God's annual Holy Days and festivals teach that vital principle, particularly the Day of Pentecost (or Festival of Firstfruits) and the Last Great Day. (Our free booklet God's Holy Day Plan: The Promise of Hope for All Mankind will explain further.)

Jesus Christ said that none could come to Him unless the Father would draw that person (John 6:44 John 6:44No man can come to me, except the Father which has sent me draw him: and I will raise him up at the last day.
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, 65). It is God's responsibility, not ours, to call our loved ones to His truth. In His own wisdom and for His own reasons, sometimes God chooses to call a wife and not her husband during this age, or vice versa.

However, you need not worry about your husband's salvation. God may choose to call him during the great resurrection of most of mankind—depicted by the White Throne Judgment of Revelation 20. This resurrection is not one of condemnation, but will be the first opportunity for the vast majority of humankind to obtain salvation. You may be assured that sooner or later your husband's mind will be opened to God's truth.

Even so, the apostle Peter gives people in your circumstances some very good advice. Please read carefully the first six verses of Peter's first letter, chapter 3. He emphasizes the good conduct of a wife rather than her conversation. Usually trying to convert a marriage partner by mere talk or giving him or her religious literature does not work. Most of the time it causes unnecessary friction and tension in the marriage. It is our actions that are much more important. Regular prayer to God for divine assistance is also essential.

We have mailed several free booklets to further explain these principles and to assist you in coping with your personal situation: Making Life Work (including material about marriage), You Can Have Living Faith and God's Holy Day Plan: The Promise of Hope for All Mankind. We will certainly keep you in our prayers!