Sex Is Intended for Pleasure

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A loving sexual relationship is one of the benefits of marriage. God approves of sexual relations between married partners and views the married sexual relationship as beautiful.

The final verse of Genesis 1 is a summary statement of how God views His creation: "Then God saw everything that He had made, and indeed it was very good" (Genesis 1:31 Genesis 1:31And God saw every thing that he had made, and, behold, it was very good. And the evening and the morning were the sixth day.
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). This was shortly after God had created the first two human beings as male and female (verse 26). God pronounced sexuality, the male and female bodies and sexual relations as very good. In the account of creation the only thing God said was not good was for the man to be alone. So God created a woman to be with him (Genesis 2:18 Genesis 2:18And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.
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Though the English word sex is not found in the Bible, the Bible is prolific with references to sexuality. Some references show that harmful consequences result from sex's misuse, but many others illustrate that God created sex to provide exquisite pleasure for married couples.

Notice these words of instruction to a young man: "Drink water from your own well—share your love only with your wife. Why spill the water of your springs in public, having sex with just anyone? You should reserve it for yourselves. Don't share it with strangers. Let your wife be a fountain of blessing for you. Rejoice in the wife of your youth ... Let her breasts satisfy you always. May you always be captivated by her love" (Proverbs 5:15-19 Proverbs 5:15-19 [15] Drink waters out of your own cistern, and running waters out of your own well. [16] Let your fountains be dispersed abroad, and rivers of waters in the streets. [17] Let them be only your own, and not strangers' with you. [18] Let your fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of your youth. [19] Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy you at all times; and be you ravished always with her love.
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, New Living Translation).

The Song of Solomon is a joyous account that uses poetic language to romantically describe the sexual interaction and the endearing words exchanged between devoted mates and includes a tasteful description of the sex act itself.

The old attitude of prudery that surrounded sex—especially in medieval religious circles—once caused scholars to search for alternate explanations for the purpose of this book. This has changed. "Only in the 20th cent[ury] has it [the Song of Solomon] come to be accepted again as a love song celebrating the sensual aspect of human life" (The International Standard Bible Encyclopedia, 1988, Vol. 4, "Sex," p. 435).

The Expositor's Bible Commentary adds: "The Song [of Solomon] is a song in praise of love for love's sake and for love's sake alone" (J. Stafford Wright, 1991, Vol. 5, p. 1207).

Some have wondered why this book about physical love should be in the Bible. It does not expound religious themes, and it contains no obvious references to God. Yet it is most appropriate to include in the Bible a love story that shows how sexual relations should be, in view of the fact that "history began with a wedding (Genesis 2:18-25 Genesis 2:18-25 [18] And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him. [19] And out of the ground the LORD God formed every beast of the field, and every fowl of the air; and brought them to Adam to see what he would call them: and whatever Adam called every living creature, that was the name thereof. [20] And Adam gave names to all cattle, and to the fowl of the air, and to every beast of the field; but for Adam there was not found an help meet for him. [21] And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall on Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof; [22] And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her to the man. [23] And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man. [24] Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall join to his wife: and they shall be one flesh. [25] And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.
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) and will climax with the Marriage Supper of the Lamb (Revelation 19:6-10 Revelation 19:6-10 [6] And I heard as it were the voice of a great multitude, and as the voice of many waters, and as the voice of mighty thunder, saying, Alleluia: for the Lord God omnipotent reigns. [7] Let us be glad and rejoice, and give honor to him: for the marriage of the Lamb is come, and his wife has made herself ready. [8] And to her was granted that she should be arrayed in fine linen, clean and white: for the fine linen is the righteousness of saints. [9] And he said to me, Write, Blessed are they which are called to the marriage supper of the Lamb. And he said to me, These are the true sayings of God. [10] And I fell at his feet to worship him. And he said to me, See you do it not: I am your fellow servant, and of your brothers that have the testimony of Jesus: worship God: for the testimony of Jesus is the spirit of prophecy.
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)" (ibid.).

God created sex and marriage. He created both for the purpose of love. The former should be reserved for and experienced only in the latter. When this happens, sex and love become the blessing that God intended them to be. GN