Sometimes after making a sexual mistake, people will reason that since they’ve already committed the sin, they may as well continue doing so. This is faulty thinking because continuing to practice premarital sex or adultery perpetuates one’s sin and can lead to a seared, unresponsive conscience. The biblical way to cleanse one’s conscience is to repent —that is, stop breaking God’s law.
Because sex is enjoyable and because an emotional bond is created between two people through this act, breaking off an unlawful sexual relationship can be difficult. Here are a few points to keep in mind if you need to end or have recently ended a sinful relationship:
Repent . To repent means to stop what we are doing wrong and to change direction. It also includes admitting our sin to God and asking for His forgiveness. “If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness” (1 John 1:9 1 John 1:9If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.
American King James Version×). Repentance is mandatory for being forgiven.
Have courage to do what is right . God respects people of courage who do what He says, and He promises us strength when we do. Psalms 31:24 Psalms 31:24Be of good courage, and he shall strengthen your heart, all you that hope in the LORD.
American King James Version×says, “Be of good courage, and He shall strengthen your heart, all you who hope in the LORD.” Ask God for the courage you need as you cease your wrong conduct. Strive to do what is right and ask for God’s help at the same time because “whatever we ask we receive from Him, because we keep His commandments and do those things that are pleasing in His sight” (1 John 3:22 1 John 3:22And whatever we ask, we receive of him, because we keep his commandments, and do those things that are pleasing in his sight.
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Accept God’s forgiveness . When we repent, God not only removes our sin from us, He no longer thinks of us as having committed it (Psalms 103:12 Psalms 103:12As far as the east is from the west, so far has he removed our transgressions from us.
American King James Version×; Hebrews 8:12 Hebrews 8:12For I will be merciful to their unrighteousness, and their sins and their iniquities will I remember no more.
American King James Version×). While penalties may remain (loss of virginity, an STD, or a temporarily broken heart), God forgives us completely when we repent. Believe God—not your unstable emotions
“ Sin no more .” This is what Christ told both a man and a woman who had committed sins (John 5:14 John 5:14Afterward Jesus finds him in the temple, and said to him, Behold, you are made whole: sin no more, lest a worse thing come to you.
American King James Version×; 8:11). To follow this instruction, one may need to change habits and, in some cases, even friends. Being accountable to God through daily prayer and Bible study as well as attending worship services every Sabbath are excellent means to fulfilling Christ’s command. Hearing God’s Word regularly at Sabbath services will also increase your faith (Romans 10:17 Romans 10:17So then faith comes by hearing, and hearing by the word of God.
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Though it is always hard to leave sinful conduct because of the temporary pleasure associated with it (Hebrews 11:25 Hebrews 11:25Choosing rather to suffer affliction with the people of God, than to enjoy the pleasures of sin for a season;
American King James Version×), doing so is well worth the effort. Remember God’s promise in Proverbs 11:18 Proverbs 11:18The wicked works a deceitful work: but to him that sows righteousness shall be a sure reward.
American King James Version×: “He who sows righteousness will have a sure reward.”