Suicide is a grisly scourge, a deadly plague. Every year thousands of youth make the voluntary choice to die, and they take their own lives. Statistics show suicide is the third leading cause of death among those 15 to 25 years of age. It is the sixth leading cause of death among those five to 14 years of age! Can you imagine five—year-old children killing themselves? An estimated 500,000 teenagers attempt suicide each year, and about 500 succeed. That number is comparable to the number of fatalities from cancer and homicide! Why do people commit or attempt to commit suicide? What is the Bible’s teaching and God’s perspective on this subject? This discussion guide will begin to probe these important questions.
EXODUS 20:13: “You shall not murder.”
1. What does this commandment say about terminating human life?
2. Does this commandment, in principle, include suicide, self-murder? Why or why not?
EZEKIEL 18:4: “Behold, all souls are Mine; the soul of the father as well as the soul of the son is Mine; ….”
COMMENT: The Bible teaches that each person is a soul, and that a soul is a living, breathing creature.
3. To whom do we belong? Can we say our lives are ours to take? Read also 1 Corinthians 6:19-20 1 Corinthians 6:19-20 19 What? know you not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which you have of God, and you are not your own?
20 For you are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God’s.
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4. Who only has the prerogative to take human life? Why?
GENESIS 1:26-27: “Then God said, ‘Let Us make man in Our image, according to our likeness; ….’ So God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them.”
COMMENT: The word image suggests reproduction in form and substance, whether physical or spiritual. The word likeness gives the idea of resemblance and outward similarity. God created humans with the intention of adding every person to His Family.
MATTHEW 5:21-22: “You have heard that it was said to those of old, ‘You shall not murder,’ and whoever murders will be in danger of the judgment. But I say to you that whoever is angry with his brother without a cause shall be in danger of the judgment … ”
5. Based upon these 2 passages, how much do you think God values every human being?
Why People Attempt Suicide
The specific word suicide is not used in the Bible. However, the Scriptures do chronicle seven suicides or incidents of individuals intentionally killing themselves. Let's consider three of those.
1 SAMUEL 31:3-5: “The battle became fierce against Saul. The archers hit him, and he was severely wounded by the archers. Then Saul said to his armorbearer, 'Draw your sword, and thrust me through with it, lest these uncircumcised men come and thrust me through and abuse me.' But his armorbearer would not, for he was greatly afraid. Therefore Saul took a sword and fell on it. And when his armorbearer saw that Saul was dead, he also fell on his sword, and died with him.”
1. Why did Saul commit suicide? Why couldn't he face the future?
2. Why did Saul's armorbearer also kill himself? What might he have feared?
MATTHEW 27:3-5: “Then Judas, His betrayer, seeing that He had been condemned, was remorseful and brought back the thirty pieces of silver to the chief priests and elders, saying, 'I have sinned by betraying innocent blood.' And they said, 'What is that to us? You see to it!' Then he threw down the pieces of silver in the temple and departed, and went and hanged himself.
3. Why did Judas hang himself? What do you think was his state of mind after having betrayed Jesus?
4. Sometimes it isn't fearing that God won't forgive, but it's having to face those whom you've hurt or their relatives that is most difficult. What could you say to such a person to ease his or her burden?
5. Why is it difficult to forgive oneself? If God can forgive, should not we?
COMMENT: Most suicides recorded in the Bible were carried out in response to severe depression and hopelessness. Saul and Judas Iscariot are examples of individuals who had lost all hope of reversing the impact of the decisions they had made. “What causes people to want to kill themselves? There may be as many answers to that question as there are attempts to commit suicide … One thing appears to be clear. Persons who attempt to kill themselves view themselves to be in some sort of extreme circumstance … Indeed, for many with suicidal thoughts, whether adolescents or adults, ‘circumstances’ or ‘situations’ are at the heart of their desire to put an end to their lives.” [i]
6. What factors in our society today are causing the growing feeling of hopelessness and serious depression in the lives of adolescents and young adults?
There IS Hope
Suicide has much to do with hopelessness. The circumstances of one’s personal predicament can seem overwhelming. The pain can seem unrelenting. Since God has commanded us not to take our own lives, how does He expect us to handle the circumstances and feelings that lead some to consider suicide? Let's see what God says in His Word.
JEREMIAH 33:8: “I [God] will cleanse them from all their iniquity by which they have sinned against Me, and I will pardon all their iniquities by which they have sinned and by which they have transgressed against Me.”
1. How else could Judas have dealt with his guilt? Read also 1 John 1:8-9 1 John 1:8-9 8 If we say that we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us.
9 If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.
American King James Version×. Do you think there are any sins God will not forgive? Why or why not?
2. What can we learn from Psalms 107:10-21 Psalms 107:10-21 10 Such as sit in darkness and in the shadow of death, being bound in affliction and iron;
11 Because they rebelled against the words of God, and contemned the counsel of the most High:
12 Therefore he brought down their heart with labor; they fell down, and there was none to help.
13 Then they cried to the LORD in their trouble, and he saved them out of their distresses.
14 He brought them out of darkness and the shadow of death, and broke their bands in sunder.
15 Oh that men would praise the LORD for his goodness, and for his wonderful works to the children of men!
16 For he has broken the gates of brass, and cut the bars of iron in sunder.
17 Fools because of their transgression, and because of their iniquities, are afflicted.
18 Their soul abhors all manner of meat; and they draw near to the gates of death.
19 Then they cry to the LORD in their trouble, and he saves them out of their distresses.
20 He sent his word, and healed them, and delivered them from their destructions.
21 Oh that men would praise the LORD for his goodness, and for his wonderful works to the children of men!
American King James Version×regarding God's willingness to rescue a person from the results of sin?
HEBREWS 13:5: “… For He Himself has said, 'I will never leave you nor forsake you.'”
3. What assurance does God provide for those who feel alone, friendless, alienated from others, even family? Need we face dismal future prospects alone?
4. What about those who feel unloved? Read also John 3:16 John 3:16For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.
American King James Version×and 1 John 4:16 1 John 4:16And we have known and believed the love that God has to us. God is love; and he that dwells in love dwells in God, and God in him.
American King James Version×. Can we be sure we won't lose God's love? Consider Romans 8:38-39 Romans 8:38-39 38 For I am persuaded, that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor powers, nor things present, nor things to come, 39 Nor height, nor depth, nor any other creature, shall be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.
American King James Version×and then answer.
5. How despised was Jesus? (Isaiah 53:3 Isaiah 53:3He is despised and rejected of men; a man of sorrows, and acquainted with grief: and we hid as it were our faces from him; he was despised, and we esteemed him not.
American King James Version×) How was He able to endure? (Hebrews 12:2-3 Hebrews 12:2-3 2 Looking to Jesus the author and finisher of our faith; who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is set down at the right hand of the throne of God. 3 For consider him that endured such contradiction of sinners against himself, lest you be wearied and faint in your minds.
American King James Version×) Can He and will He offer comfort and aid to those so suffering? (Read Hebrews 2:10 Hebrews 2:10For it became him, for whom are all things, and by whom are all things, in bringing many sons to glory, to make the captain of their salvation perfect through sufferings.
American King James Version×,18 and 4:15-16.)
1 PETER 5:7: “casting all your care upon Him [God], for He [God] cares for you.”
6. What should we do when we are faced with depression? What care or concern or problem can we not take to God?
7. Is God aware of and concerned about even the slightest matters in our lives? Read Matthew 10:29-31 Matthew 10:29-31 29 Are not two sparrows sold for a farthing? and one of them shall not fall on the ground without your Father.
30 But the very hairs of your head are all numbered.
31 Fear you not therefore, you are of more value than many sparrows.
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MARK 14:36: ” And He [Jesus] said, 'Abba, Father, all things are possible for You. Take this cup away from Me; nevertheless, not what I will, but what You will.'”
8. What situation is impossible for God to solve?
9. What alternative to self-pity is there when one is facing painful situations? Read, too, Philippians 4:13 Philippians 4:13I can do all things through Christ which strengthens me.
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10. What promise does God make when we see no solution? Consider also 1 Corinthians 10:13 1 Corinthians 10:13There has no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that you are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that you may be able to bear it.
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COMMENT: Suicide is, at best, a bad option. It really doesn’t solve one’s difficulties. It actually compounds them! In the next split second of your thoughts, you will once again be awake and alive. You will be the same person with the same thoughts, but now you will also have to deal with your own murder. In addition, suicide inflicts tremendous, permanent pain on the surviving family and friends.
There are much better options. Choose to fight the battle and seek out others who can help you fight when you are not strong. Many people do care and will help you through these low points. It may be hard to ask for help, but it is harder to ask them to deal with your suicide!
Suicide is driven by a despairing view of the world around us. God offers us a vision of the future, however, which He gives to strengthen us in our everyday lives. “But as it is written, ‘Eye has not seen, nor ear heard, nor have entered into the heart of man the things which God has prepared for those who love Him’” (1 Corinthians 2:9 1 Corinthians 2:9But as it is written, Eye has not seen, nor ear heard, neither have entered into the heart of man, the things which God has prepared for them that love him.
American King James Version×). And further yet into the future, suffering and death will become part of humanity’s past. “And God will wipe away every tear from their eyes; there shall be no more death, nor sorrow, nor crying; and there shall be no more pain, for the former things have passed away” (Revelation 21:4 Revelation 21:4And God shall wipe away all tears from their eyes; and there shall be no more death, neither sorrow, nor crying, neither shall there be any more pain: for the former things are passed away.
American King James Version×). Live for that day and this day will go better!
What You Can Do
If you are contemplating suicide, contact a caring minister, or other professional counselor at a suicide prevention center, or telephone 911 for help.
GALATIANS 6:2: “Bear one another's burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ.”
1. How can you help someone who you suspect to be considering suicide?
COMMENT: One of the most important things we can do is to simply listen to the troubled person. Sometimes talking about their problems will ease the pain. Tell them how you feel about their intention of killing themselves. Remind them that there are many other people who are like them, and that there are people who love them. If they are Christians, remind them of God's love, His help, and His Plan for each person. Then look at the warning signs that are present, take them seriously and call for help. The presence of three or more indicators or warning signs may be viewed as red flags.
Warning Signs of Suicide Risk
Change in personality—becoming sad, withdrawn, irritable, anxious, tired, indecisive, apathetic.
Change in behavior—can't concentrate on school, work, routine tasks.
Change in sleep pattern—oversleeping or insomnia, sometimes with early waking.
Change in eating habits—loss of appetite and weight, or overeating.
Loss of interest in friends, hobbies, activities previously enjoyed.
Worry about money, illness (real or imaginary).
Fear of losing control, “going crazy,” harming self or others.
Feelings of overwhelming guilt, shame, self-hatred.
No hope for the future-“It will never get better, I will always feel this way.”
Drug or alcohol abuse.
Recent loss of a loved one through death, divorce, separation, broken relationship; or loss of job, money, status, self-confidence, self-esteem.
Loss of religious faith.
Suicidal impulses, statements, plans; giving away favorite things; previous suicide attempts or gestures.
Agitation, hyperactivity, restlessness may indicate masked depression.
A teen contemplating to commit suicide may also:
Complain of being “rotten inside.”
Give verbal hints with statements such as: “I won't be a problem for you much longer,” “Nothing matters,” “It's no use,” or “I won't see you again.”
Put his or her affairs in order—for example, give away personal possessions, clean his or her room, throw away important belongings, etc.
Become suddenly cheerful after a period of depression.
Taking these modest steps can save many lives and reduce a great deal of human suffering.
[i] Timothy J. Demy, Gary P. Stewart, Suicide: A Christian Response, (Grand Rapids, MI: Kregel Publications, 1998), pp. 199-200.