Choosing a Mate

"Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh" (Genesis 2:24).

The process of choosing who you'll spend the rest of your life with is one of the biggest decisions you'll ever make throughout the entire course of your existence. To see what God says about how to make that the best choice possible, check out our material below.

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The Difference Between Infatuation and Love

In the heady world of male-female relationships, how can one know the difference between love and infatuation?
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Getting to Know Others

If you want to learn practical ways to get to know guys and girls without getting serious too soon, we wrote this "how to" section with you in mind. Here are six points we've discovered to be helpful.
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Getting to Know Girls

Can any relationship not built on friendship stand the test of time?
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Getting to Know Guys

Take time for friendship before committing to a relationship.
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Fairy-Tale Weddings: What's for Real?

Getting married is not all glitz and glamor. But there's a great deal to look forward to—and reason to focus on preparing.
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Love Run Amok

How can you know in advance whether someone will become an abusive mate? Don't be one of those who blindly ignores warning signs of bad things to come and pays a price for it.
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Being Single: A Blessing or a Curse?

In our longing to belong to someone, do we forget to focus enough on the One to whom we must ultimately belong?
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What's Right With Marriage

More and more voices in society attempt to run down marriage, claiming it's out of date and seeking to change its definition. But there's still much to be said for this relationship God instituted when He first made man and...
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The Religion Factor in Marriage

How important are your religious beliefs—to you? Would you be willing to compromise them for that "special someone"? Interfaith relationships raise especially important questions for young adults.
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"Are We Right for Each Other?"

These 10 questions can help you gauge the godly potential of your relationship.
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The Right One

Is finding your "one true love" an impossible dream? How can you know when you have found "the right one"?
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What Guys Should Know Before Marriage

If you don't know what you want in life, how will you know if you found the person to join you on this journey?
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What Girls Should Know Before Marriage

If you enter into marriage blinded by physical attraction, you'll be rudely awakened not long after, when the full character of your spouse becomes evident.
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Would Jesus Christ Pick Us for a Mate?

People traditionally engage in haphazard mate selection, but there are proven criteria for proper mate selection, and the bride and groom must meet each other's expectations to improve the success of that new relationship. This message focuses on the groom's…
A War on Men
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A War on Men

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Will You Wait for Each Other?

Why do some marriages last while others don't? I've learned some important lessons in my own journey of 40 years.
"Divorce In My Generation of Believers" or "The Lie of the Self-Fulfilled Life"
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"Divorce In My Generation of Believers"

The Lie of the Self-Fulfilled Life
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Three Traits to Avoid when Looking for a Husband

When my daughters were teens I told them to be particularly aware of three traits in a boy because these traits influence what kind of man he would become.
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A Time of Engagement

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Marriage: Soon Obsolete?

Is marriage outdated and antiquated? Some people think so. But what does your Creator say? Discover the vital truth.
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