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After the sentence was announced in Dallas, Texas, a small crowd gathered in the foyer outside the courtroom yelling and crying in frustration over what they said was too short of a sentence, as shown by a WFAA livestream.

"No justice, no peace," they chanted.

But inside the courtroom, it was a totally different atmosphere. The victim’s 18-year-old brother, Brandt Jean, told his brother's killer that he forgave her and that he loved her like anyone else in a victim's impact statement.

Brandt went on to say, "I don't want to say twice or for the hundredth time how much you’ve taken from us. I think you know that . . . I don't even want you to go to jail. I want the best for you because I know that's exactly what Botham would want."

Brandt said the best thing for the shooter Amber Guyger to do would be to give her life to Christ. He then turned to the judge and asked an unusual question.

"I don't know if this is possible, but can I give her a hug please?"

That is when everyone saw them embrace. This young man’s brother was killed by this young woman but he showed America what true forgiveness is all about.

This nightmare started on Sept. 6, 2018, when a Dallas police officer—Amber Guyger—came home from work and said she accidently got off on the wrong floor of her apartment building. When she got to what she thought was her apartment, the door was not locked, instead slightly open. That is when she saw the victim, Botham Jean, and shot him. She was sentenced to 10 years in prison.

The story that everyone is focusing on is the amazing example of the 18-year-old brother of the victim, Brandt, who showed such amazing forgiveness and kindness to this woman. This example is so rare in today’s culture of anger, revenge, get even, and destroy anyone who has hurt us. People sue over everything.

What is rare today is what Brandt emulated, an outstanding example that Christ set for us while on the cross. While Jesus was hanging on the cross, spit on, made fun of and suffering great pain, He prayed, “Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing” (Luke 23:34, New International Version). “He did not retaliate when he was insulted, nor threaten revenge when he suffered. He left his case in the hands of God, who always judges fairly” (1 Peter 2:23, New International Version).

Forgiveness is the healing of wounds caused by another. We make the choice to try and let go of the past hurt, forgive those who have hurt us, and move on. Our greatest emotional healer, Jesus Christ, inspired this advice to be written by the apostle Paul concerning forgiveness: “Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you” (Ephesians 4:32). He lived that advice by example in His own life.

Did you know that studies have shown forgiveness is good for us? Studies have found that the act of forgiveness can reap huge rewards for your health, lowering the risk of heart attack, improving cholesterol levels and sleep, and reducing pain, blood pressure and levels of anxiety, depression and stress.

We forgive, not primarily for the benefit of others, but for ourselves, to prevent further, often more serious, disorder. Christ knew what He was talking about when He encouraged us to forgive.

Karen Swartz, M.D., director of the Mood Disorders Adult Consultation Clinic at The Johns Hopkins Hospital says, “There is an enormous physical burden to being hurt and disappointed. Chronic anger puts you into a fight-or-flight mode, which results in numerous changes in heart rate, blood pressure and immune response. Those changes, then, increase the risk of depression, heart disease and diabetes, among other conditions. Forgiveness, however, calms stress levels, leading to improved health" (Forgiveness: Your Health Depends on It).

Wow! Apparently Jean Brandt knew about forgiveness and its positive effects on our bodies and mental state.

He was later interviewed on Good Morning America. "This is what you have to do to set yourself free," he said in an interview. "I didn't really plan on living the rest of my life hating this woman."

"I know that there's something called peace of mind and that's the type of stuff you need to do to have peace of mind," he said. "That is why I wake up happy in the morning. That is why I want to live happy later on in my life."

Forgiveness is good for our health and our mental state. May we all have a forgiving heart, when people do bad things to us, just like this amazing young man. Many times this will require seeking God on our knees for the needed help to be able to say those three powerful words: I forgive you.

Comments

  • J G

    This article shows forgiveness is powerful, and it is; however, Brandt thought the better thing for Aber Guyger was that she: “..give her life to Christ.., which is impossible for her to do (John 6:44, 65).
    Thank God for His forgiveness, which is a done deal for those 2 thieves crucified beside Jesus.
    Stephan (Acts 7:60) was aware of forgiveness towards those who were in the process of murdering him. What confidence Jesus, Stephan and Paul displayed! Paul? Yes!
    "To wit, that God was in Christ (John 3:16-17; 7:21), reconciling the world unto himself (I John 2:2), NOT imputing their trespasses unto them;..." 2 Corinthians 5:19.
    Reconciling is not all that God does. God does have the power of resurrection whereby Botham Jean, Brandt, Amber will again see one another; a big group hug is in store for them (just like there will be between Cain and Abel). Talk about forgiveness? Talk about grace!
    And for those inside and outside that Dallas courtroom? In that same great Last Day there will be shock and awe, as all will acknowledge God’s forgiveness:
    “But now, O LORD, thou art our father; we are the clay, and thou our potter; and we all are the work of thy hand.” Isaiah 64:8

  • Janet Treadway

    Hi Gordon Love this comment from you! "Reconciling is not all that God does. God does have the power of resurrection whereby Botham Jean, Brandt, Amber will again see one another; a big group hug is in store for them (just like there will be between Cain and Abel). Talk about forgiveness? Talk about grace!" What an awesome day that will be for all of us

  • KARS

    Long time no see Janet.
    Thank you for another helpful article to your reading audience. When we are in the mindset of God our Father (with His forgiveness, for He is very patient) and ask for His help to forgive others, we find we can let go of all the negative thoughts and emotions locked deep inside of ourselves. Like the song from the movie "Frozen ". "Let It Go". By letting go we set ourselves free. "Let it begin with me..." Peace begins with me. Thank you once again. Have a lovely Sabbath. Shalom

  • Janet Treadway

    Thank you so much Kathy for you response. When I started reading your comment I immediately through of that song "Let it Go" before I even got down to you mentioning the song. The only way you can survive mentally is to let it go, let God, and move on. It sure takes God's power to help us get beyond that point. Thanks again for your kind comments.

  • KARS

    Your Welcome Janet. :o)
    By the way, the second song is titled, "Let There Be Peace On Earth".
    Have you heard this song before?

  • Janet Treadway

    Wow not sure I could that. That is the ultimate example of forgiveness, If someone killed my daughter I don't think I would have the strength that your Aunt has Wow

  • Ellen Burton

    Forgiveness is powerful! I had such a wonderful example of my Aunt Thelma. Her oldest daughter was killed by her husband, very brutally. My aunt forgave him and would visit him in prison. She raised her four grandchildren also. I am sure Mr. Brand's life is going to be blessed for having such a forgiving attitude. My Aunt Thelma's life was because of forgiving. Thanks for a wonderful article Janet!

  • Janet Treadway

    Thank you, Ellen, for your comments. And wow. I was going through my articles and noticed I had not comment on your kind words and inspiring story Hope you are doing awesome.

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