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Can God Forgive Me If I Take My Own Life?

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If you are reading this and contemplating taking your own life—please contact the suicide helpline at 1-800-273-8255, or click here to begin an online chat with a Lifeline Crisis Counselor. You are not alone. You have people who love you and you are worth the time and the effort— please seek help .

After you seek help, please read on.

The short answer to this question is yes, but the fuller answer is significantly more complex and worth exploring.

God has a plan for you, and He wants you to understand your part in that plan. He desires that you choose life and that you endure to the end.

God understands our human limitations since His Son Jesus lived as a man and is now at the right hand of the Father, interceding on our behalf as our mediator (Romans 8:34 Romans 8:34Who is he that comdemns? It is Christ that died, yes rather, that is risen again, who is even at the right hand of God, who also makes intercession for us.
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; 1 Timothy 2:5 1 Timothy 2:5For there is one God, and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus;
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). Jesus understands the feelings of depression and trials, the challenge of seeing the joy and happiness in life. He was in all points tempted, yet did not sin (Hebrews 4:15 Hebrews 4:15For we have not an high priest which cannot be touched with the feeling of our infirmities; but was in all points tempted like as we are, yet without sin.
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God is loving and He is merciful, and He is not likely to condemn a person to eternal death for taking their own life in their distress and depression. However, the act of suicide is sin. And we cannot use His love, mercy and grace as a justification for our actions (Romans 6:1-2 Romans 6:1-2 1 What shall we say then? Shall we continue in sin, that grace may abound? 2 God forbid. How shall we, that are dead to sin, live any longer therein?
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Life is incredibly difficult.

People struggle with unbelievable trials; they battle depression and other serious challenges in their lives. Sometimes, it feels impossible to see the light at the end of the tunnel—and people reach a point where they are certain that death is the only way out of the troubles and trials that they face. To them, it represents a certain peace and an end to all of these difficulties.

If you find yourself in this place, struggling to see the light at the end of the tunnel, having difficulty finding joy and happiness and wishing for death, you are in good company.

The people of God have faced these kinds of troubles since the very beginning. Many of the biblical giants, men of incredible faith—reached a point where they wished to die and couldn’t imagine going another step. They pleaded with God to take their life from them.

In the midst of leading God’s people through the desert, as the Israelites continually complained and the pressure and stress built to a crescendo, Moses asked the Lord to take his life from him (Numbers 11:11-15 Numbers 11:11-15 11 And Moses said to the LORD, Why have you afflicted your servant? and why have I not found favor in your sight, that you lay the burden of all this people on me? 12 Have I conceived all this people? have I begotten them, that you should say to me, Carry them in your bosom, as a nursing father bears the sucking child, to the land which you swore to their fathers? 13 From where should I have flesh to give to all this people? for they weep to me, saying, Give us flesh, that we may eat. 14 I am not able to bear all this people alone, because it is too heavy for me. 15 And if you deal thus with me, kill me, I pray you, out of hand, if I have found favor in your sight; and let me not see my wretchedness.
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). The prophet Elijah was faced with ongoing stresses and threats of death from Jezebel and felt he was the only one left of God’s prophets. He pleaded with God to take his life (1 Kings 19:1-8 1 Kings 19:1-8 1 And Ahab told Jezebel all that Elijah had done, and with how he had slain all the prophets with the sword. 2 Then Jezebel sent a messenger to Elijah, saying, So let the gods do to me, and more also, if I make not your life as the life of one of them by to morrow about this time. 3 And when he saw that, he arose, and went for his life, and came to Beersheba, which belongs to Judah, and left his servant there. 4 But he himself went a day’s journey into the wilderness, and came and sat down under a juniper tree: and he requested for himself that he might die; and said, It is enough; now, O LORD, take away my life; for I am not better than my fathers. 5 And as he lay and slept under a juniper tree, behold, then an angel touched him, and said to him, Arise and eat. 6 And he looked, and, behold, there was a cake baked on the coals, and a cruse of water at his head. And he did eat and drink, and laid him down again. 7 And the angel of the LORD came again the second time, and touched him, and said, Arise and eat; because the journey is too great for you. 8 And he arose, and did eat and drink, and went in the strength of that meat forty days and forty nights to Horeb the mount of God.
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). Jonah would have rather died than see the evil Ninevites repent and be shown mercy by God (Jonah 4:3 Jonah 4:3Therefore now, O LORD, take, I beseech you, my life from me; for it is better for me to die than to live.
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). Job and Jeremiah both cursed the day of their birth, desiring that they had never been born because of the difficulties and sufferings they were experiencing (Job 3:1-16 Job 3:1-16 1 After this opened Job his mouth, and cursed his day. 2 And Job spoke, and said, 3 Let the day perish wherein I was born, and the night in which it was said, There is a man child conceived. 4 Let that day be darkness; let not God regard it from above, neither let the light shine on it. 5 Let darkness and the shadow of death stain it; let a cloud dwell on it; let the blackness of the day terrify it. 6 As for that night, let darkness seize on it; let it not be joined to the days of the year, let it not come into the number of the months. 7 See, let that night be solitary, let no joyful voice come therein. 8 Let them curse it that curse the day, who are ready to raise up their mourning. 9 Let the stars of the twilight thereof be dark; let it look for light, but have none; neither let it see the dawning of the day: 10 Because it shut not up the doors of my mother’s womb, nor hid sorrow from my eyes. 11 Why died I not from the womb? why did I not give up the ghost when I came out of the belly? 12 Why did the knees prevent me? or why the breasts that I should suck? 13 For now should I have lain still and been quiet, I should have slept: then had I been at rest, 14 With kings and counsellors of the earth, which build desolate places for themselves; 15 Or with princes that had gold, who filled their houses with silver: 16 Or as an hidden untimely birth I had not been; as infants which never saw light.
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; Jeremiah 20:14-18 Jeremiah 20:14-18 14 Cursed be the day wherein I was born: let not the day wherein my mother bore me be blessed. 15 Cursed be the man who brought tidings to my father, saying, A man child is born to you; making him very glad. 16 And let that man be as the cities which the LORD overthrew, and repented not: and let him hear the cry in the morning, and the shouting at noontide; 17 Because he slew me not from the womb; or that my mother might have been my grave, and her womb to be always great with me. 18 Why came I forth out of the womb to see labor and sorrow, that my days should be consumed with shame?
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You are not alone in feeling like things are hopeless. These men in their lowest, darkest places begged God to end their lives, and His answer was “No.” They went on to become incredible examples of faith.

Because God said no, they were able to endure to the end despite their difficulties.

The apostle Paul sent a consistent message in his letters to his young protegé Timothy, as well as the churches of Corinth. The writer of Hebrews also discusses the same concept. They compared our spiritual journey to a race. They encouraged the people reading their letters to consistently put one foot in front of the other to finish the race, to fight the good fight (2 Timothy 4:6-8 2 Timothy 4:6-8 6 For I am now ready to be offered, and the time of my departure is at hand. 7 I have fought a good fight, I have finished my course, I have kept the faith: 8 From now on there is laid up for me a crown of righteousness, which the Lord, the righteous judge, shall give me at that day: and not to me only, but to all them also that love his appearing.
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). Especially when it got tough. They encouraged them to run the race in such a way that they might be counted worthy to obtain the prize (1 Corinthians 9:24-27 1 Corinthians 9:24-27 24 Know you not that they which run in a race run all, but one receives the prize? So run, that you may obtain. 25 And every man that strives for the mastery is temperate in all things. Now they do it to obtain a corruptible crown; but we an incorruptible. 26 I therefore so run, not as uncertainly; so fight I, not as one that beats the air: 27 But I keep under my body, and bring it into subjection: lest that by any means, when I have preached to others, I myself should be a castaway.
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) and to throw off every weight that hinders them. They were admonished to run the race with endurance so that they will not grow weary and lose heart (Hebrews 12:1-3 Hebrews 12:1-3 1 Why seeing we also are compassed about with so great a cloud of witnesses, let us lay aside every weight, and the sin which does so easily beset us, and let us run with patience the race that is set before us, 2 Looking to Jesus the author and finisher of our faith; who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is set down at the right hand of the throne of God. 3 For consider him that endured such contradiction of sinners against himself, lest you be wearied and faint in your minds.
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James writes: “Blessed is the man who remains steadfast under trial, for when he has stood the test he will receive the crown of life, which God has promised to those who love him” (James 1:12 James 1:12Blessed is the man that endures temptation: for when he is tried, he shall receive the crown of life, which the Lord has promised to them that love him.
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Life can feel impossible at times. There can be trials which come our way, depression and other issues that can make us feel as though we simply can’t go on, or that life just isn’t worth living. God loves you. He can forgive you. He has a plan for you, and He wants you to understand your part in that plan. He desires that you choose life (Deuteronomy 30:19 Deuteronomy 30:19I call heaven and earth to record this day against you, that I have set before you life and death, blessing and cursing: therefore choose life, that both you and your seed may live:
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) and that you endure to the end (Matthew 24:13 Matthew 24:13But he that shall endure to the end, the same shall be saved.
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You are not alone.

There are people who love you.

You can do this.

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