Why doesn't God hear or answer me? Why do I have unanswered prayers?

Few attitudes are more disheartening and destructive to faith than the feeling that God doesn't hear our prayers, doesn't answer or doesn't care. It is easy to come to such conclusions when God doesn't respond when or how we want.


The apostle Paul was a man who could have concluded that God doesn't listen to people. After all, he urgently pleaded with God to intervene for him in a chronic trial. But God refused to grant Paul's request.

Does this mean Paul lacked faith? Of course not. However, there is a deeper lesson for us in Paul's life of living faith.

When Paul pleaded with God

Notice Paul's account of this trial: "There was given me a thorn in my flesh, a messenger of Satan, to torment me. Three times I pleaded with the Lord to take it away from me" (2 Corinthians:12:7-8, New International Version).

What was this trial that tormented Paul? Comments in Paul's writings hint it may have been a problem with his eyes (Galatians:4:13-15; 6:11).

The implication is that Paul fervently asked God to deliver him from the trial, no doubt with fasting and heartfelt prayer (2 Corinthians:11:27). He wanted this hindrance removed so he could continue to spread the gospel effectively and care for the congregations God had raised up.

God's answer to Paul

Paul could have concluded that God had not heard his pleas. But this is not the case. God simply gave Paul a different answer: "My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness" (2 Corinthians:12:9).

Whether God directly spoke these words to Paul or whether Paul gradually came to this understanding of God's will isn't clear from the Greek wording. What is clear is that Paul came to a deeper spiritual understanding that strengthened his faith and commitment.

Paul came to see that the credit belonged to God and Jesus Christ rather than to himself and that his weakness drew him closer to that source of power and strength. "I am therefore happy to boast of my weaknesses, because then the power of Christ will rest upon me. So I am content with a life of weakness, insult, hardship, persecution, and distress, all for Christ's sake; for when I am weak, then I am strong" (verses 9-10, Revised English Bible).

Of course, Paul's experiences were not typical of what most modern Christians experience today. Along with his great trials, he also witnessed great miracles and evidence of God's power. Still Paul's "thorn in the flesh" stands as an important spiritual lesson for us. Sometimes when we experience unanswered prayers, God's answer for us is actually "no" or "not yet." God never intended our physical bodies to last forever. He has allotted us an existence of about 70 years (Psalm:90:10). He is far more concerned that we develop righteous character and a trusting relationship with Him that can last for eternity. He wants to resurrect us to eternal life in a glorious, immortal spirit body not subject to weakness, illness and death (1 Corinthians:15:40-44, 50-54).

In the meantime, Paul understood that God in His love will never allow us to fall into trials greater than we can endure. "But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it" (1 Corinthians:10:13, NIV). Sometimes that "way out" is simply the determination to endure the trial, to "stand up under it."

Hearing God's will

Paul was not the only one who learned that living, trusting, abiding faith is more important than physical health and long life. Even Jesus, knowing that He faced a cruel death only hours away, prayed, "O My Father, if it is possible, let this cup pass from Me" (Matthew:26:39). Jesus loved life and wanted to live as much as any of us. But He acknowledged a greater purpose for this physical life: "Nevertheless, not My will, but Yours, be done" (Luke:22:42).

Jesus Christ, the perfect example of faith, knew God's will was more important that His.

God knows what is best for us in the long run, even if it may conflict with our short-term wants and desires. As Peter tells us, "[cast] all your care upon Him, for He cares for you" (1 Peter:5:7). Paul says we should be "confident of this very thing, that He who has begun a good work in you will complete it until the day of Jesus Christ" (Philippians 1:6). Because God works within us from a broader perspective to build faith and character, He doesn't always answer our prayers in the way we desire.

Some were delivered, some not

The Bible tells us at times "women received their dead raised to life again." But "others were tortured, not accepting deliverance, that they might obtain a better resurrection. Still others had trial of mockings and scourgings, yes, and of chains and imprisonment… And all these, having obtained a good testimony through faith, did not receive the promise, God having provided something better for us, that they should not be made perfect apart from us" (Hebrews:11:35-40).

Even when we have unanswered prayers, know that God does listen. He does not always answer our prayers to our immediate satisfaction and instantly deliver us from our trials. But He will always do what is best for us.

For more understanding please read our booklets Why Does God Allow Suffering and You Can Have Living Faith .

J Coleman

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God does answer prayer? His timing is not our timing and I do agree that he has our best interest in mind. I have a question that many are probably asking. If God said that he would look after all our NEEDS then why do we struggle each day with finances, relationships, work, etc.
I recently opened a business in the marine sector. Things where extremely busy and the business was moving along at a successful rate until about 6 months later when it seems like every customer we were dealing with fell off the face of the earth. Business and finances went down hill and still today we are struggling to keep the business open. Even our personal finances are exhausted. We have prayed hard and long and earnestly for God to help us through this time but each week we are just getting further in debt. If God hears our prayers and will meet our needs, then why are we struggling with this situation?


MarvinValeros's picture

Mr.J.Coleman, God helps us, he wants all the best things in our life, If you are praying to him, Pray the right prayers that you want him to hear and answer, "THE LORD GOD ANSWERS OUR PRAYERS" but we must know what to do, we must work with him side by side and NEVER lose hope, remember this "ASK GOD FOR YOUR PURPOSE IN LIFE, ASK HIM THE THINGS YOU NEED TO DO, ASK HIM TO GUIDE YOU IN EVERY WAKING DAY OF YOUR LIFE" , God will help you on the process, but you should take care of the details.

First go on to the business perspective, why did your business went down hill? Is there something wrong with your products?,all customers have money, you should make a way for them to buy your goods, (MAKE A BUSINESS STRATEGY).

We get mad and sad when things don't go the way we planned it to be.We are clouded by the thoughts that SHOULD happen, when in real life it does not always like that,some dreams come true, some don't, your other dreams needs to wait.

We are living in a world full of different people, some who knows God, some who don't and some who don't understand and some who does.

We need to hope for the BEST, Pray hard to him that he will help us get through this hardship.

and I pray that he may give you the strength to continue, the knowledge to use to make your life rich and happy.

SEEK FIRST THE KINGDOM OF THE LORD, then all these material things will be yours and everything will follow.


Farmerjim555's picture

The same as Mr J Coleman.
I am a retired executive, aged 62years. 3 months ago I felt that God had called me to assist my daughter and her husband in launching a new software product for their business. Although I am very much enjoying my retired lifestyle, feeling that God had called me to assist them, I reluctantly gave this up and promised to assist them for 3 months. Naturally I continued daily prayer for my task and product launch and over the 3 months I had face to face meetings with corporate clients, nearly all of whom loved the product. 3 months have passed without 1 product sale. My background prior to retiring was in consulting to the corporate sector and I was very successful in all aspects of sales and marketing and leading my company in this area. I believe the product I was working with is very good and so did most of the clients I demonstrated it to. I have had no negative feedback from clients re the product. I now feel I had mistaken God's call to assist them and to some extent have suffered some embarrassment in this whole episode.
So unanswered prayer again and it has shaken my faith without a doubt.


kim_1988's picture


Do not despair for you do not know what God has called you for to assist your daughter, he just called you, we are not to figure out why, just follow what he said. Those challenges are exactly to shake up our faith, but don't stop believing. It doesn't have to be successful right away, maybe that's exactly the trial part when it doesn't work out, to see if we believe in the call, in helping. If you know how to do this, it is not your fault that it hasn't worked out, I feel this is for some good godly reason and if you stay strong in faith and trust in God, when you least expect it you'll see the fruits (we don't always know in what form those fruits will come), just keep staring at God's eyes, deal with embarrassment. God also sometimes wants to strip us of our feeling of power; maybe knowing that you actually can't, gives it glory to God, and if this actually works out, to know it's not because of your long lived experience, but because it was a call from God and God is the one that will give you the blessings. He wants to let you know we can not do anything without Him, not even the small things we know how to.
So I am happy to hear sometimes powerlessness because it means we get closer to God and call on Him. God bless you so much and keep the faith in Him no matter what, no matter the dark circumstances.


Lovebostons's picture

I have prayed to God for so long about my living situation. I need to live in peaceful, safe environment and no matter how hard I try I can't get out. I've prayed about this and asked for guidance asked for help and nothing. Sometimes I feel like maybe I am in hell and this will never end. I am so tired. So lost. He does not answer prayers. And even the reason why He does not answer prayers cannot be answered.

What is the point? We are to know that we cannot do anything without Him? Well, I know that. That is why I go to Him for help in the first place because I know I can't do this without Him. But....He doesn't help.

I feel stupid just writing this because the proof that god does not answer prayers says to me he does not exist. So why am I even here?

Malachi 3_16-18

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Dear LoveBostons,

I’m so sorry about your difficult situation. I am certainly praying for you.

It was impressed on me to go back and read the article, and after reading it, I think part of the answer lies here: We might have in mind a certain way God must answer our prayer, but have you considered that He may want you to remain where you are, at least for the time being? I definitely believe in answered prayer, but sometimes the answer for me has been No, or more often, Not yet. His perfect timing is best. Perhaps you will learn something that you can’t see right now, especially if you learn to accept or work with the situation. Sometimes I have been delivered from a trial at about the time I had just learned to accept it!

Now, that doesn’t mean you can’t change anything at all about it. And by all means don’t give up asking God to help you to move out of your place if and when it is according to His will – persistence in prayer isn’t wrong (Lk 18:1-8), but perhaps ask Him also to show you what to do in the meantime. I don’t know your exact situation, of course, but perhaps He will show others through you, how to have a good attitude and serve Him despite trying circumstances. It is through the difficult times in life that our heavenly Father sees what we are made of, when we develop sterling character.

I am reminded of the man who told Jesus, “I believe; help my unbelief” (Mk 9:23-24). He did have a grain of faith, but he cried out to Jesus for more, realizing his lack, and how much he needed divine help.

I do hope this helps. Continuing to pray for you.

Perhaps this link would be helpful:



chrispybacon's picture

I have read all the above comments with interest. J Coleman, and Farmer Jim I am in a similar situation. I know how it feels guys! I am also really trying to do my best in business, trying to work and pray hard. Trying to be well meaning, sincere, and hard working. I am in retail - and sometimes I have a good run, a string of nice sales, and then...I hit a dry patch, when finances just dry up, and I am left short, and somewhat embarrassed - polite excuses to friends invitations, debts building up. My savings are exhausted now. People like my products, I get repeat business, but its those prolonged and unexplained quiet spells that are so hard.

Its worrying, and I wonder, like J Coleman about my needs being met. I wonder possibly that sometimes God is holding things back from us to test our hearts and determination, and faith in Him. Well I haven't starved yet, so that's so that's more than some people in the world have!

Right now I am back on the dry period, the bills keep coming with regularity, and the orders simply aren't... In honesty I don't feel like I have gone far wrong with my relationship with God,
I search my heart and wonder if I have lost my way, or done something to offend God, but I think I am doing ok. Possibly sometimes a lack of faith, but its not easy when you seeing the bills piling up, and my efforts failing.

Having said all that I do believe without a doubt God hears our prayers. We must be positive in being flexible and innovative to refine what we are doing, pick ourselves up and have another go. I believe God loves perseverance, and determination.
He also doesn't promise life will be easy, and I console myself with keeping on trying, and giving thanks through these trials...He must know that we cant carry on like this forever. The bills wont wait.

One thing I struggle with is praying for guidance on an issue, and being unable to hear or feel a response. I mean specific important decisions, key matters to the future of the business. I seek Gods input, but sometimes the answer isn't easy to locate.

Hope this is of help to others



kdre's picture


The disciples had the same issue with their business take heart

They toiled all night long and caught no fish... this was their busness....

Take on faith, and pay attention to what Jesus told them

Stop asking and start listening to what God is saying to you...

He cares about your business. If you don't hear wait til he speaks

Luke 5 King James Version (KJV)

5 And it came to pass, that, as the people pressed upon him to hear the word of God, he stood by the lake of Gennesaret,

2 And saw two ships standing by the lake: but the fishermen were gone out of them, and were washing their nets.

3 And he entered into one of the ships, which was Simon's, and prayed him that he would thrust out a little from the land. And he sat down, and taught the people out of the ship.

4 Now when he had left speaking, he said unto Simon, Launch out into the deep, and let down your nets for a draught.

5 And Simon answering said unto him, Master, we have toiled all the night, and have taken nothing: nevertheless at thy word I will let down the net.

6 And when they had this done, they inclosed a great multitude of fishes: and their net brake.

7 And they beckoned unto their partners, which were in the other ship, that they should come and help them. And they came, and filled both the ships, so that they began to sink.

8 When Simon Peter saw it, he fell down at Jesus' knees, saying, Depart from me; for I am a sinful man, O Lord.

9 For he was astonished, and all that were with him, at the draught of the fishes which they had taken:

woman of faith

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God does answer prayers, when we pray we should not tell God the solutions for our problems, we should tell him our problems only, he will solve our problems in his own way, at his own time. if you are suffering from poverty, you ought to tell God your problem, that you are poor ,God will decide whether he gives a job, or a great business idea, or a scholarship to go and study, or perhaps God want you to use your gifts in order to get provision, so God does answer prayers, as long as we give him a platform to do things in his own way, at his own time, we shall see his goodness in the land of living.

woman of faith

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God is faithful, and he does answer prayers. when we pray we should not tell God the solutions for our problems, we must tell him our problems only, and he will solve our problems in his own way, at his own time. if you are poor, when you pray you should tell God your problem, that you need him to help you cause you are poor, God is full of wisdom, he will decide the best way to solve your poverty issue, he might give you a job, or a great business idea and people who will help you to implement your idea and generate cash, or he might give you a scholarship to go and study, or he might enable you to use your gifts/talent to get provision. so we must not program God, just because you are facing that mountain in your life, it does mean God will remove it, he might decide to give you strength to climb it, so we should be open minded when we are waiting for our answers from GOD,

We must not limit God, he power is unlimited, as long as we trust him, we shall see goodness in the land of living.amen


brian123's picture

why is always God's time? Why? I can't tell the bill collectors that? What purpose does God get out of this to see me suffer? How come he has yet to give me an answer? A simple yes or no? I don't understand a God so merciful would do this to his creatures?


brian123's picture

At least you have a job. I know life isn't easy, but why? Isn't he the God of mercy? Isn't he like a father, helping us "children" as a father I help my son and explain to him when he cannot have things or do things. I ask this from God, but I don't get an answer? He expects blind faith or he'll send us to hell. Why?
Why would you send your child to hell? I for one would not. Doesn't it hurt him to kill his family? To see us suffer? Why would a God of mercy do this? Why does he only help his children in BC? Why? Like others on here, all we're asking is for some help or atleast an answer. We're not looking for lottery winnings or supermodel greatness, we're asking for help a hope that we can do right for our families. Then get nothing in return but, cliche sayings like, "in His time." I cannot live on that, no one can and say that and expect someone to use that is utter nonsense. I would love some answers.


EvanToledo's picture

I appreciated reading all the responses so far. I certainly have "been there and done that" in the many years I've been on both the inside and outside of God's Church.

I think many people today have the mistaken idea that God should make everything work out the way we want all the time and that our physical lives now should be comfortable and successful.

Remember, all we deserve is death. (Romans:6:23) But thanks to God for having a plan to eventually bring us into His own family, we can choose life, if we repent and obey Him!

There is NO guarantee our lives now will be wonderful and peaceful--many of God's most loved and faithful servants throughout history had tough times and some even lost their lives for their beliefs.

Peek at the last chapters in the Bible--Revelation 21 & 22. God's Plan will then be a reality! Those who love and obey Him will inherit all things--do you realize how WONDERFUL that is? There is a reason there are countless stars and galaxies in the universe--YOU can inherit them and be part of God's family FOREVER!

This life is only a training ground for the incredible life God the Father and Jesus Christ are planning for you!!

This is the wonderful subject of UCG's September 10 presentation in Cincinnati--I pray it will be a big success!! In the meantime, order or view online the two booklets suggested---and for that matter, explore this resourceful website!


xilinxguy's picture

In Matthew:26:39, Jesus asks the Father that His life be spared. The Father heard His prayer, but denied the request. Jesus made a perfectly reasonable request--spare My life. The prayer was answered, and the answer was an obvious NO. Jesus accepted it. I believe God answers all our prayers; it is just that the answer sometimes isn't what we wanted. How often have we had our child, our spouse or even our employee make a reasonable request from us, only to have it denied by us because it didn't fit the overall "plan"? Yet, the petitioner will claim "you didn't answer my request." We did--the answer was still NO. God is trying to instill within us His perfect character. How can that be done when we are not tested? we are not tempered? Can a child learn patience and perseverance without experiencing denial? Can a student earn a degree without studying? Can a soldier become a general without ever learning to follow orders? All the answers should be an obvious NO. God answers ALL prayers. Its just sometimes the answer is a tough one to swallow.

Norbert Z

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brian123, your words leave the impression that God is sending bill collectors to your door. So what if He did? He sent Satan to do things to Job. Was He being unrighteous and lacking mercy with Job's life?

The way I see it, God allows circumstances to enter our lives as a vehicle and means for us to figure out the correct answer to our OWN questions. For us to develop and grow the mind Christ. This takes OUR time and God is gracious to give that to us.



cjgennaro's picture

Something else to keep in mind is that God is not the reason for our suffering. Satan is the god of this world for the time being. Suffering is caused by sin and Satan's influence. Oftentimes, our sin has separated us from God. It may be for our own good that He does not answer our prayers in that situation. Then we may say,"What am I doing wrong to not be closer to God than I am?"

Draw near to Him and He will draw near to you. And drawing near does not just mean when we are in need. Then He may answer and we forget about Him the next day. Without ever learning the lesson He wanted


TS's picture

Yes God does help those who help themselves but then thats just what it is us helping ourselves...if we can? To be able to help ourselves we need to ask God to come into our lives, give us wisdom, grace, discernment and all the other qualities he wants us to have to be like HIM
We are not able to do things on our own, though we try hard to do so and fail, this is how we learn we need him in everything we do. The key is are we letting him lead and doing all the things needed for him to work in our lives...reading, searching, praying, learning, serving...
I have to ask myself this continuously as I don't seem to get the clear answer I need to find direction in my life.

I to am self employed (24yrs) and just had to stop working because of anxiety that then caused depression, I certainly do not understand why I am left to go though this. We have a 4 yr old to support and now I am without an income, being a one man show there is no one to keep things running while I try and heal myself. God knows this, I don't understand why the answers are not obvious? What am I doing wrong???

Malachi 3_16-18

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Hi TS,

You seem to be on the right path, in seeking God and relying on Him. Jesus did say it would be challenging to follow Him (Acts:14:22), but that our load would be relatively light if we learn to give Him our burdens (Mt 11:28-30, 1 Pet:5:6-7).

Don’t give up. It’s good you are asking those questions, but remember that God has other purposes in trials, too - to build His character in us (Jas 1:2-4, 1 Pet:1:6-7, 1 Pet:4:12), to teach us and others lessons of compassion (2 Cor:1:3-4), and sometimes for reasons we are unable to fathom at the time. I have asked questions like yours multiple times in my life, and the reasons were not forthcoming for a long while, but later, I began to see many things God had taught me through allowing me to go through the trial or trials.

Continue seeking your heavenly Father, and if you aren't already doing so, I would also recommend seeking the fellowship of other believers who can encourage you in doing what is right. In cities all over the U.S and world, United Church of God has congregations with caring pastors and members who give one another support as we all strive to live God’s way of life. Check out this link, where you will also be able to contact a pastor in your area if you wish:



rwp_47's picture

Hi cjgennaro -
Actually God is the reason for our suffering ... really .... I don't mean that in some strange way. In fact, in the final analysis, there is no other reason. Because all things are by him and for him. All suffering is for him ... for his purposes. In fact, he could actually be the one who is intentionally bringing the suffering on us (when we do suffer)... as even a casual look at the book of Job shows us. And just check out Heb:2:10 and Heb:5:8. He'll even do it to himself. And the only influence that satan has it what influence God has given him (again, check out the Book of Job). But you're right ... the only answer is to draw close to him and not fight the lessons ... but try and learn them as quickly as one possibly can.

This world is a construction site. And we all need to pay close attention to the sign (its called the bible) that says ... "Warning ... God at work".

My dad was a dentist. And when I developed a cavity, the fact that he was my father didn't stop him from going to work on me. In fact ... just the opposite.

And you can bet the farm that's the way God will be too. So strive mightily to walk the straight and narrow ... unless, of course, one just loves pain.

Norbert Z

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TS, there are very clear answers that give direction for our lives, the Ten Commandments to start with.

From my experience, I've worked with immigrants that have escaped far greater anxiety of their third world origin and then entered our first world with its' problems. The thing is, it doesn't cause them depression.

So what's the difference? They continue to manage and even prosper while you are struggling with depression.


BeenThereDoneTimeAndAgain's picture

As usual there are two camps here... the ones who suffer in real time and the ones living theoretical lives. For the first party, I feel your pain as I have suffered through three business start-ups and failures with all the emotions. For those living untested lives, I've been a Christian for almost half a century and am familiar with all your quotations.

For the first group. I've prayed most "recently" for more than 12 years without seemingly a "rescue" from God. This is all I have to say to you... It comes down to a choice. You have free will, a gift, to decide if despite all your troubles God is still God. If so, then have courage and empower your trust to the end.

To the second group. I hope that you continue to live a life without the hardships that many of us have gone through. I've finally realized that just like professors and real life workers, one is living in an ivory tower where everything looks fine and the other is toiling with pain and fear on top of angst and sorrow. If you have the courage, pray for your life to be harsh so that you develop into a finer character with true empathy. If not, then hope that your easy life continues to support your simple faith. The choice is also yours.

God is God no matter what. We are His creation, not the other way around. Religion is created by man; we suffer in the hands of man, not God. Disappointment is from misleading teachings of man, not the Bible. If you set your expectations correctly you will not be disappointed. Have a good earthly life.

Love my Faith

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My precious husband passed away over 2 years ago. We were extremely close, and I still miss him constantly.
On the day of his funeral, I came home and realized how totally alone I was. I said to God: "It's just You and me now. Please lead the way." (my surrender)
Being devastated with grief, I could only do contemplative prayer to this very day...all throughout the day, every day.
And I thank God for all that I have and don't have.
Before the funeral and after surrendering to God, I continue to have over-lapping trials, struggles, and problems that I cannot keep up with. It gets so over-whelming and very defeating. I've had numerous bereavement sessions (and still), had Spiritual counseling,joined a Christian Spiritual group, and I take a med for depression. I go to Church regularly, read Scripture, and inspirational readings. I continue to offer all to God, to put everything in His Hands, but nothing changes or some things get worse.
I feel no differently. I don't sense any consolations from God or sense any guidance from Him. My life is in limbo. I am only existing.
I don't know where to turn or what to do already.
Please, any suggestions or advice??

Malachi 3_16-18

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Hi BeenThere,

I’ve heard the saying, We should be kind to all, because all are fighting some sort of battle. We never know what a particular individual has suffered, and not everyone on this discussion thread would necessarily want or feel it appropriate to share everything that they’ve endured. Perhaps some of those on here that are giving advice, and seem to be looking down from their “ivory towers,” are actually those who have come out of great suffering themselves. Maybe, or maybe not, but I hope you can take comfort in knowing that even the proud will meet their Maker someday too, and if not humbled by then, will have their just reward (Isa:2:10-12; Mal:4:1).

Religion is created by man? Well, perhaps many times it is, but true and undefiled religion is to visit the widows and orphans in their affliction, and to keep one’s self unstained from this world (Jas 1:27). I believe many of us try to live these words even as we ourselves suffer adversity, and it’s in reaching out to others who are suffering that we become more compassionate individuals (2 Cor:1:4-7).

I truly am sorry to hear of your hardships and suffering, and sincerely pray that things will improve for you. You’re certainly right about not letting anything get in the way of trusting in God to the end. He is the only One who can empower us with what it takes to keep going, and while doing so, to build His righteous character in us (Heb:12:11).


rwp_47's picture

I'm not living high on the hog so it must be God's fault - my business isn't doing well so that must mean God's not taking proper care of me and he's not answering my prayers - I wanted to be the prom queen but Martha was made queen instead - how can I believe in God after that? - I felt that God was wanting me to invest my life savings into trying to fit this square peg in that round hole ... but it turned out it didn't fit and now I'm embarrassed and broke ... how can I rely on God now after he did such a pathetic job of taking care of me? I'm not sure I wouldn't be better off without him!

Really people? ... really?

What if it turns out that God is actually the one causing your problems - that he's actually intentionally bringing the problems on you?! What would you think then? You don't think that could happen? Then evidently you never read the book of Job. Somehow you missed how God bated Satan into making job's life unbearable. Talk about business failure - everything he had was wiped out - his children were murdered - and more! I mean stop and think about it. Who was responsible for that? Who caused it? Didn't God set the entire thing up? And think about this - you think you'd like to trade places with Job? Or Jesus even ... would you like to trade his human life for yours? Is that how you'd like to end up - crucified - spit on - hated? But don't we look on these men and these stories with reverence? What exactly do we think is going on? Maybe we didn't see the sign - you know - the one that said: "WARNING ... GOD AT WORK!!!!!"
And I don't say these things to minimize our problems or to be unsympathetic. Because trials can be heart crushingly hard. But we need to get a grip - and understand - its not about us and what we want - its about him and what he wants. Remember - "... all things were created by him, AND FOR HIM." [Col:1:16] And you're one of those things. He wasn't created by you for you. The very moment you forget that - you're problems begin compounding and you loose your way. So don't forget it - and work hard and intelligently at solving your own problems. Because there's really no helping the willingly and stubbornly irrational. Don't tempt God by knowingly making bad decisions and expecting him to save one from them. That's a bad plan.


rwp_47's picture

"Love my Faith" ... hi

I'm terribly sorry to hear about your loss and the continuing pain its causing you. There are some losses that I guess we never really get over ... we carry them always (at least until we experience the joy of our resurrection). In one respect though it sounds like you were very fortunate actually in that not everyone is blessed with a happy, loving marriage ... as you evidently were.

I don't know if this will be of help to you or not but its something you might think about. I retired about six years ago. And of course we've all heard how some find retirement difficult ... and many actually go back to work because they can't seem to learn how to be retired. One has to learn how to retire (its something that must be learned). While there is no magic formula, I've discovered that doing things for others greatly empowers one's ability to be happy. In my own case ... I like to do woodworking. Its just something I enjoy doing ... but I couldn't do it as a job. Its a hobby.

But since retiring I've found myself making things for others ... jewelry boxes, equipment carrying cases, foot stools, benches, and other such things. It wasn't something I had planned to do in retirement ... it simply has turned out that way. When working in my career I never had time to do such things (it wouldn't even have occurred to me). But now I do. Retirement affords me the opportunity to do this. And what I've discovered in the doing of it is that it powerfully affects one's life in happy purposeful way. It actually plays a big part in making retirement happy.

Now of course you likely don't do woodworking ... but we all have our talents. And I'm sure you do too. I'd recommend harnessing your talents in a similar manner. I think if you do you'll be surprised at the positive effects it will have in your life. It makes the scripture that says it is more blessed to give then to receive come alive and take on real meaning ... it just becomes more than mere words on a page(or a mere platitude in a book). Its like the difference between reading about how to ride a bicycle as opposed to actually going out and doing it. Its the difference between night and day. Anyway ... its something you might want to consider. It has had a transforming effect in my life ... I have no doubt it would in yours too.


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Many sound answers, but they don't seem to offer any immediate help in all the trying, difficult, painful, worrying, heart wrenching situations that folks have written about. I believe that almost all of these situations could be become bearable and change would happen if the church would really fulfill it's job of caring for the suffering, perplexed and discouraged in the church. In my experience most Christians don't show the care, concern and love that they should be showing. The world is a selfish place and it seems like the church isn't much different.
Every suffering person has a relationship with God and to be responsible for themselves, but we all need each other help, comfort, friendship and PRACTICAL HELP, the nuts and bolts kind of help, pouring oil in the wound. Where is this in the church of Jesus Christ???? ¿¿¿¿¿


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I too am facing difficult situations. My health is bad, can't work properly to take care of myself or family, have marital problems and more. It seems like I'm caught in
a vicious cycle. There seems to be no way out, I try and don't get anywhere. Unlike most of the folks on this site, I live in a small poor country in South America, called Guyana. You have access to all kinds of organizations that may be able to help, I don't have that here. I ask the same questions and get no obvious answers. But is God really silent? Are we really listening? Sometimes we rail up against God and blame him for our troubles, when our own folly, mistakes and sin may be causing our problems. Regardless of how we feel, God is Sovereign, he doesn't make mistakes, he has a plan even though it seems like there is none. God doesn't operated according to our thoughts, feelings, anger etc. Let's be careful in what we say about him when things are black, hopeless and confusing, lest we speak foolishly. We don't have the mind of God, and cannot understand his ways, we are finite, God is infinite. We can't fit the oceans into a teacup, similarly so we will never be able to understand his ways. Absolute trust in His love, mercy, kindness and faithfulness is necessary at all times regardless of WHAT we are going through. Read the story of Lazarus and let God speak to you through it. Read what Jesus said and how he reacted to news of Lazarus's sickness. It is story of desperate people in a desperate situation, but Jesus knew what he was doing.


jeff_s's picture

How can God say with a straight face that He loves us when He knowingly places us in a life that He KNOWS will be more suffering than enjoyment? And He did it without our consent!


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My name is John Mabuya, God does answer prayer but sometimes it takes very long time before we receive what we ask for, I was born in Mozambique and grew up in South Africa, in 2010 I lost my job and in 2012 my house was accidental burned in Mozambique with my furniture and everything I had bought, I been suffering a lot but kept believing God that one day he will answer my prayers. and today I started building a new 3 room house as I want to take my family back to Mozambique to preach gospel full time, I will never give up on God and I believe that one day my trials will end. Therefore I want to advice anyone out there who is facing challenges to keep on praying and God will see you through. Brothers and sisters God does answer prayer

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