James tells us the tongue is "an unruly evil, full of deadly poison" (James 3:8). Ever noticed that people often resort to shouting when they are confused, lost or frustrated? The more upset and out of control they get, the more they shout. (Funny how that has never solved any problems.)

The worst outbursts I have encountered have usually come at a moment of high emotions, when self-control is at its lowest ebb. Words tumble out of our mouths and often these words have the ability to hurt. A converted person must not allow himself or herself to lose control. James 3 makes that abundantly clear.

What are some of the comments you have heard that drip with acid? What are some of the second meanings that you know are intended by the sarcastic tone of voice or choice of words directed toward you?

Have you ever intentionally or unintentionally allowed acid to drip from your tongue? It can even be a defense mechanism. Often the more we really deserve criticism, the more defensive we will be—and, therefore, the more biting our response.

Then there's sarcasm—"a bitter sneer; a satirical remark in scorn or contempt." We have all heard compliments that were not compliments at all, haven't we?

I love the last chapter of the book of Proverbs that speaks about the virtuous wife who has a value far greater than that of rubies. Proverbs 31:26 states: "She opens her mouth with wisdom, and on her tongue is the law of kindness." These words indicate understanding, knowledge, compassion and a bent toward being kind and considerate all of the time.

That's the antidote to the poisons of the acid-drenched tongue.